Your worth comes from within you as an individual, not from relationships

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Sounds like she has a shit husband who doesnt do shit for her, she needs to back off your husband. Being a good husband does not make him overprotective of you. She needs to not be a snake

>Both these things are pretty easy fixes so I wasn’t too concerned.

This only applies if you're meeting a 10 year old. At 24 you should be very concerned.

Look, OP, I'm gonna be honest, I just skimmed from this point forward because this post comes up every couple of weeks or so.

THERE IS NO AMOUNT OF LOVE THAT EXCUSES A STANKASS.

How should you put it? Bluntly and directly. "Compassionate" sailed away around the time he was 13 or so.

"Hey, dude, you're a swell guy but your hygiene game is way off. While you have many qualities I find attractive, your lack of hygiene gives me pause. It's bad enough that I would not consider any physical affection for fear of being grossed out.

I hope you can take care of it."

If Stinkor's response is to get butthurt instead of jumping into the nearest shower, he is not a keeper.

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I don’t get that she wants him, is miserable in her own marriage, is searching for cracks to exploit, needs to be reported to HR. Y’all are nuts.😂

She sounds like she was asking why it seems like your husband can’t have a conversation without feeling he needs to defend you. I don’t understand why you think this woman - who works with your husband - should be focusing on/paying attention to/sitting next to you at work events. Lolol. The women my husband works with are polite to me, but none are looking to be my bestie.

Well, unless they’ve had to much to drink. I once had a 20-something admin come running to hug me and gush over me. Ew. My husband is her boss. I would have preferred she ignored me!

You don't need to understand. She's into your husband, she doesn't sound like a good person

She liked your husband before she got married and she still likes him now. I'm guessing she'd be more than happy to have an affair and THRILLED if he left you for her

You are 20 and still have plenty of time.

Don't be in a relationship that stresses you out.

Also, relationships aren't always equal like that. Some days we have to help our partner more. They might get sick, and a good partner would help. One might be in a financial struggle for some time and need help. Some days, we just have bad days and need someone to care. Sometimes you have to give a little more to the other, and some days they have to give a little more to you. I understand wanting to split things like bills, taking turns paying every date night, taking turns getting food, but it sounds like this is a little more than that.

Regardless, if the relationship is stressing you out, don't be in it. I think his actions and behavior is something to think about--what if you get sick? Would he bring you soup? Help nurse you? Or would he note, because he hasn't been sick yet and received that same treatment?

I may well misunderstand the FWB thing, so please correct me if I'm wrong. You can him a Friend With Benefits however you are expecting him to behave like a boyfriend. Which one is it?

Some women get off on taking married men, even if they already have a long-term partner. Ex-friend of my husband did the same crap by chasing the married men in her friend group. The thought process is that of someone who derives their self-worth externally through others. It’s a hungry, endless void that is rarely satisfied. The thought process is something like, “Wow, he’s married but he’s throwing it away for me. I must be so amazing!”

If it works and the marriage ends, the married man loses his shine. To fall for her makes him unworthy. So he goes on the shelf while she seeks out other married men.

They are close to collecting SS at 67. Advise them to transfer things like the house or valuable possessions into your name. Retirement homes will confiscate everything if it has not been transferred more than five years before being "homed".

My take on it is she's 1. Crushing on your husband, and 2. She's jealous of how your husband holds you in such high regard. I'm guessing hers doesn't.

I’m so sorry this happened to you.

Dad here of age 57.

I love my kids to death and they know they can raise absolutely anything with me.

They also know I’d listen first before talking.

I’m pleased you’ve got somebody that you can talk to, friends and therapist.

I’d possibly say that the easiest way to tell your mum is by just saying “I’ve got something to tell you but I need you to listen and not just react, as I want to talk this through with you and not jump about with emotion and anger”

Then tell her.

Your mum loves you. She will listen to you.

I wish I could be there with you to help you tell her. Again I’m sorry this person did this to you.

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Just be honest. People go on a journey with their sexuality and gender. It's better to be honest than lie.

Upgrade your boyfriend with a new model and better features

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