If you regret this, then you should not date. Really.

You have to enjoy dating for the ride, both figuratively and literally in this case.

99% of all the first dates you go on will end in eventual "failure." It's part of the deal.

It's not about there being anything wrong with you or evil about them or whatever... it's just the way it is.

And, you're right-- you aren't going to see her again, and that's also just part of dating.

Ignoring all the truly awful stuff you've done, where do you think your kids got their materialism from?

Does everyone in the group know you exist?

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The dogs had been out maybe 2 hours beforehand, so they weren’t actively asking to pee. If they were I would have taken care of them first. Yeah, I would like counseling, but it’s honestly out of my price range currently.

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some people in relationships just go through the motions of what they think should happen in a relationship at certain time points regardless of what is actually going on in the relationship

I guess I don’t want them to suffer under shitty eldercare and healthcare systems just because they weren’t smart enough to plan for the future.

It seems irresponsible to go down a path that I know provides little security, when I know in 10 years an extra $10k can be the difference between full rehab after a broken hip or being checked on once a day.

>Would you give a second chance to a person who betrayed your trust?

No.

>Have you ever done it?

No.

>Should it be done under a certain circumstance? Even if this person shows remorse?

Well you definitely shouldn't do it if they don't show remorse. But if they do it's up to you to decide whether or not to give them a second chance. There's no objectively correct answer.

Personally, in your situation I would not advise you to do so. Take it from someone more than twice your age, you're still very young, not even a fully-legal adult yet, and you just met her a month ago (I know it feels like "a lot", but that's due to your youth and comparative inexperience). You don't need this. Be glad you saw her true side this early, and cut your losses and move on with your life.

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I was SA'd as a child and never told anyone about it until a year later. It was my best friend at the time that I told, we were outside playing in the snow at night and I just came clean to her about it because I had to tell someone it happened. She told me I need to tell my parents, I was at my mom's at the time and I told her and then we spoke to my dad. We called the police and they couldn't do anything about it since it was so long ago. My childhood was robbed and he took that away from me and will continue walking free and who knows who else he's done it to. Worst part was his parents thought I was lying and then spread lies to the other neighborhood kids parents so then their kids weren't allowed to play with me anymore. Everyone gave me the cold shoulder because her teen son decided to rape me multiple times. It fucks with me SO bad now that I'm almost 30 and sometimes I wanna die. Please confide in your mom, she's there for you and she will continue being there for you.

WTF did I just read. Ugh… How do I get this shitty image of what I read out of my head?

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I’m guessing his expensive habit is drugs.

He’s not a great guy. He steals from you and mooches off everyone else. You’re deluding yourself.

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I’ll do both those things. I think I’ll give a name and show a picture. My eldest might recognise him.

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Marriage means very little to some people

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