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You should've read more, he's actually a good guy other than this. /s

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She has and always will be a cheater. Married doesn't change shit.

Then you break up. I would not tolerate repeated lying from a partner.

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Okay so I’m coming at this from three ways as a 44F.

1. it’s urine. It’s a cup. You can wash it. I’ve seen far more gross shit in various dishes someone forgot to clean up and left in the fridge or oven or whatever. Like I once boiled a chicken carcass to make broth, put it in the cold basement to cool, fucking forgot it and went on vacay. Found it like 3 mos later in the cubby under my stairs where i had put it. I wasn’t going to toss a $100 stock pot for that. Note that I have horses and dogs and do wildlife rescue so there’s shit in my house that has been used on the farm and not much grosses me out. The only thing I won’t let anyone reuse is a thermometer if I’ve put it up the butt of one of the animals.

2. why the fuck is he urinating in a cup? Seriously. I grew up in a house with 6 people and one bathroom. Having to go outside to pee behind the barn in an emergency was a thing. But in a cup?

3. why is his story changing? Just be honest!

I dunno. 2 and 3 would be my focus. Odd behavior and weird lies.

She's literally complaining. During the honeymoon period. 2+2 is 4.

Or it could be that she's really unhappy in her own marriage/her husband is awful - she sees your husband as a stellar example of what a husband should be, so she's trying to sense check/gain some perspective. Hence all the questions about your marriage etc. I'd recommend just directly asking her why she's asking all of those questions, in a nice way. Could be she's isolated in her marriage and this is a weird cry for help.

My husband just did this. And the driving force was untreated depression and unresolved trauma. Making huge life decisions when you are depressed is not a good idea IMO. He thinks I caused the depression because he doesn’t understand depression. Nobody is responsible for your happiness and contentment but you. It’s easy to blame shift. So I guess I side with your wife. I think you should treat the depression and make life changes (both of you together) before you make a decision as big as this especially if kids are involved. Husband moved out and now he has someone else to feed his self esteem. Still not treating his issues though. It’s always easier to run then face the problems.

No, I wouldn’t. If he asks for his brother say he’s busy/doing something else. It will cause him pain to hear it and you’ll have to tell him so many times.

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You're in the "why" stage of this and trying to find a reason so it "makes sense." One of the best ways to look at life in general is that many times we never get to know the "why" something happened. With that in mind, focus on you and your future. Invest in yourself and in healing. Give to those in need and find someone who will encourage you and give you the same energy as a reflection of who you are. Good luck!

You need serious therapy lady

Do you like him enough to take a chance on him and put up with this?

If the answer is no, then just say bye and stop replying to him 🤷🏼‍♀️

> I don’t want to date knowing she’s just riding my dick for fun like I’m some kind of human sex toy

It's odd the combination of completely overblown sexual ego and soul-withering low personal self worth. Fascinating study.