I (27M) am an incel and have never had any luck with women. But I always hopelessly go on a bunch of dating apps. I am not a very attractive guy 5'8 , overweight, and most other men mog me. I am use to catfish and scammers on them and don't believe I ever talked to someone genuinely interested until I met her who I will call "Z".

We matched and she messaged first. I figured it was just another scam or catfish. Not only from experience but she was very attractive and the fakes always use attractive girls pictures. But sometimes they have nudes of the pictures that they stole and I could use that for personal use. So we begin to chat and she doesn't ever ask for anything like money or joining her only fans. Instead Z, just talks to me about so many subjects and I find that I am having a real good time talking to them.

I figured it was a catfish but I'm lonely and could use someone to talk to. We talked about our jobs and families. It was so odd because catfish tend to want to get sexual fast to lure in. But instead we talked about our hobbies which she shared many of mine like gaming. I figured by this it had to be another man I was talking to who was just being honest about their hobbies. We even talked about our families and jobs and it felt like I was really getting to know "her" but of course it was a man right?

This went on for four days. I never connected to someone like this before in my life. Until she messaged me mid-day and asked if I'd like to meet her. My heart felt crushed by this because I knew this was just a lure to stand me up. It wouldn't be the first time I fell for a catfish years ago. I knew it was fake but it felt so real and I would wake up everyday wanting to talk to them more. I hesitated and said I would be busy for the next few days just to buy myself more time as with this person I didn't feel so alone and wanted to extend it.

She accepted that and told me whenever I am free and said she prefers to not go to expensive places for first dates. I thought this was a lure to entice me to get catfished easier. But I had to give a response so I told her in a week we could meet for lunch. She asked me to pick the place and I chose a diner that I actually go to sometimes and like it was the first thing that popped into my head. She accepted and we continued to talk everyday. But the date day came and I just figured I was going to get an insulting message and mocking me for being catfished or just be ghosted... instead she started messaging.

She told me she was there. Asked if I am there already too. About 10 minutes go by and she says she is still waiting and hopes I at-least text her back. I didn't know what to make of this. I've never had a catfish call me out for not being there before don't they just have to assume I went? I'm freaking out and couldn't bring myself to text her back because I thought maybe it will just be a guy who actually went there and that's how he knows I'm not. 5 minutes more passed and she gets upset and accuses me of standing her up and seems genuinely upset and I just remained silent and then she blocked me. At this point I don't know if I fucked up or dodged a bullet and it was a guy there.

Now, I have an alt account that I catfish women with using stolen pictures of chads that I take off of instagram. Three days later I see her again and she matches with my alt. I look at her photos again for personal use and the newest one is a picture of her sitting at the very diner I told her to meet me at. She was real and I just stood up the only woman her has ever given me a chance in my life. Who I actually liked too and felt like I connected with.

TL:DR I thought she was a catfish and too good to be true. It turns out she was real and I stood up the only woman ever to show interest in me.