Submitted by ThrowRadad01 t3_ytftz9 in tifu
I'm not looking for any sort of sympathy with this post, it's more of an awareness.
TW// rape
I (M54) have a daughter(F22) that when she was 14 was horribly ganged raped by 3 guys from her school. but I will start from the beginning. me and my daughter were extremely close when she was younger until she hit her preteen years and found everything i did annoying lol. me and her mother always caught her talking to boys and what not you know normal things. When she reached freshman year of high school we let her out to party, after said party she had a dramatic mood shift and wasn't the same girl. she later confide in my wife that she was raped at the party and i believed her instantly and i went to the police right away and got a report made and a rape kit done.
But this is where things started to get complicated, she started to change her story multiple times, everytime new evidence came out, for example it started that she wasnt drinking to she actually was drinking, then too her never talking to those guys to her actually dating one of them and then to eventually text coming out that she was planning to have sex with one of them. I started to question if my daughter was actually capable of lying about this because she did more than intended and said this because she was embarrassed. My daughter then started to have severe depression and we pulled her from school. one afternoon i just got sick of her constant story changes and i questioned her and i told her to her face that i didn't believe her...i will never forget her face and how i know i actually broke her heart..she then comes back to me screaming and crying that i broke her and that she was a virgin and would never think to lose her virginity that way. She didn't talk to me for 6 months.
Later, 3 witnesses came forward backing what my daughter was saying and I felt like the biggest prick,asshole, dick you name it and I will never forgive myself for what I did to my daughter and her rapists ended up pleading guilty. even with that my daughter had multiple suicide attempts and struggled with her mental health which i feel majorly responsible for. Where our relationship is now is that I do whatever she wants me to.. to keep her happy, I bought her dream car, I pay for her apartment in New York and put her through college. i tried to ask her if me and her can do family therapy, she refuses and says she likes where things are at now which is us talking when she wants too. but i wish we can be in a better place because i found out through my wife she does online sex work now and i wish she was comfortable enough to tell me but i fully understand why she wouldnt want to tell me. I hope the parents of daughters hear this and know never to be me. TL;DR