TIFU by looking through my girlfriends phone

As the title says, I fucked up so bad. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 9 months, we’re 21 and 19. We love eachother, we trust eachother, and we have nothing to hide from eachother. I was sleeping over at her place and couldn’t fall asleep, it was about 3 am. She was sound asleep, and I had gone through every social media app I could on my phone, and was so bored but just couldn’t fall asleep. So I don’t know what got into me, but I decided to look through her phone, particularly her Snapchat memories. I trust her, I have no reason to believe she’s cheating on me or being unloyal, I suppose I was just bored so I did it. And I was right, there was nothing to worry about, she doesn’t talk to any guys, there was nothing. But as I got down into her Snapchat memories from a year ago I started to see some things I wish I hadn’t. Around that time she was into hookup culture, one night stands and what not. I understand that’s her past, it bothers me a little but not enough to end things. But I saw snap and snap about how good the dick was from multiple guys, rating the top 10 dick she’s gotten, the extravagant moves they did in bed, and just a lot and a lot of bragging about the guys she hooked up with. I don’t view her any differently, as I knew about her past, just not in such detail. I put her phone down, cried, and ended up falling asleep. This morning I woke up and didn’t talk about it with her as I don’t want to make her feel bad for her past or anything, and I also don’t want her to know I looked through her phone, as that’s so out of character for me.

Does anyone have any advice for me?

TL;DR I looked through my girlfriends phone and saw things I didn’t want to, she’s not cheating and I know it’s my fault for looking, but I’m not sure how to go about bringing it up

Edit: Some of you did not hold back at all lol. I guess I deserve that. One thing I should add is that prior to meeting her, I was a complete virgin. She was my first kiss, my first everything, not sure if that changes anything but I figured i should add that.

Another addition I’d like to make is about my background. I grew up in a very, very overprotective and religious household, I was home schooled and attended church diligently every week, as well as other extra curriculars that I could do at church. I was raised with the idea of saving sex for marriage, which didn’t always sit right with me, and that was never something I planned on living by. I’ve since moved out of my parents house and live at my own place. But having been raised in a household like that for 20 years, and being sheltered and only interacting with people of that belief, hookups and ONS are a completely new idea and thought to me. Again, not sure if this changes anything, but do with that information what you will

Edit 2: Despite some absolutely ruthless comments, these responses actually helped. I wrote this at the peak of my emotions, I’ve settled down now, and honestly haven’t even thought about it since. My girlfriend and I talked about it. She was obviously upset that I looked through her phone, but seeing as we have told eachother in the past we have full access to one another’s phones, she wasn’t that bothered by it. Some comments got me confused. I didn’t make her apologize, I didn’t make her feel bad, I simply told her how I felt, and that was that. I didn’t expect an apology, I didn’t expect her to get in her hands and knees and beg me to stay, and she didn’t want me to do that either. We’re fine now. I’m over it. She’s mine.

I know, I have the best girlfriend ever

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