Submitted by semen_junky_69 t3_1030jxw in tifu
So yeah, my gf and I hung out today and she had an anxiety attack because of her dad (long story) and I think her depression is coming back. She is on antidepressants and birth control so her libido is quite low, while mine is quite high. I have felt, guiltily, sexually frustrated about this for a while because I haven't felt very wanted by her. It feels like I always have to convince her to do anything sexual and I guess I just want to be convinced every now and then as well. On top of that, a lot of our sex revolves around struggling to get her to orgasm, which she gets very upset if I'm messing up. Anyways, I shared most of this with her today, I knew she was in a bad mood and I honestly don't know why I felt the need, but I told her and she got very upset. She said that she felt inadequate, that she couldn't satisfy me and that she felt guilty for having such a low libido and having to be on antidepressants, that she felt pathetic etc. I know she's been feeling insecure about a lot of stuff for a while now, I feel like I really fucked up by telling her, and I'll try to bring it up another time when she's feeling better. Am I in the wrong here?
TL/DR: Told my girlfriend I was sexually dissatisfied when she was in a bad mood, turns out she feels terrible about it and really insecure, am I in the wrong for bringing it up?
Edit: thanks so much for the range of advice! No, we're not breaking up, yes, I'm still valuing my needs, and yes, I'm approaching it better. She's asleep right now, but I've texted her a very sincere apology for my timing and for how she has been feeling (she was feeling pretty distraught after everything today) I have also invited her to, when she's ready, talk about how we can better foster intimacy in our relationship. I think we've both felt a lack of that in the past few months due to several factors I won't get into here, but I think this is a step in the right direction. Lemme know what you guys think