Submitted by Fantastic_Biscotti_8 t3_10e60if in tifu
So, on Christmas Eve morning we were both up early, she was about to go do some last minute shopping. We had a mutual couple that we were friends with. They broke up, and I reply back with, “well maybe if they would have been honest with their partner, maybe that wouldn’t have been a thing”. I guess she thought this was me tipping my cap that I know something that I didn’t. She looks at me with a lot of deep sadness and sincerity and says “yeah, I guess you’re right… I’m sorry”. At this point I’m like, yeah right ok whatever. She then responds, “no, I’m tired of lying, I’ve been seeing this person online for the last year and a half”. At this moment I am in utter disbelief. She proceeds to tell me everything. I’ll spare the details for anonymity’s sake. But I am laying on my sisters couch currently at 1am. I have an apartment I will be moving into within the next 2 weeks. It’s been rough. We’ve talked since then, as we have a child together. I see my little girl everyday. There’s no chance of reconciliation because this isn’t the first second or third time it’s happened on her end.
But it will be the last.
TL;DR TIFU by implying her honesty and making a joke when she thought I found her out.
UPDATE: I didn’t think I’d get this much love. Thanks redditors! Yes I’m sure the child is mine, there was a paternity test. Keep in mind, her best friend had died around the time this last affair started. She also refused to go to therapy because “it doesn’t work for her”. So no medication for depression or anything. But she’s curated a perfect online persona that allows her to mask her flaws so everyone only sees what she wants them to see. This isn’t to disrespect her but it is who she is, and she has states as such. I get along with her at this point so I can see my daughter and she hasn’t broken or sold any of my possessions so I’m happy there too. I know this could be worse but I just thought she was my soulmate.
UPDATE 2: she claims it’s only an online thing and is for her mental stimulation. someone mentioned the polyamory thing, she tried to also get me onboard with this. Citing I could do the same, maybe I’m old fashioned but I find the old couple together forever cute. I wanted that for us. Not a group.
UPDATE 3: so last night I come by after work to spend a little time with my daughter, help her with homework, etc, right? Her mom asks me what my game plan was for the night, I tell her I’ve really got to go and find some documents for work that I seem to have misplaced, but I can come back if she would like to talk about the separation and make heads or tails of the entire thing, like what I’m taking when I move, etc. (so she is aware I’m coming back over.) it’s about an hour and a half later and I go back by, and I knock and then proceed to walk into the house and she is video chatting this guy, having phone sex. 🤣🤣🤣 I couldn’t do anything but laugh and turn around and say ‘whoops, hope it works out for ya’. I then proceed to leave. Thanks everyone for the advice, the karma and everything else. This situation has been an eye opening one and a learning experience. I am taking this one day at a time. Thanks again.