Submitted by StringLatter2790 t3_10fkp94 in tifu
I [28M] matched with this girl [22F] on bumble last year. We've been talking for a month now, we hit it off well. She's pretty, smart, likes the same things I do. We've sexted and talked about kinds and what not, but couldn't meet up until this past weekend because I was out of town.
For context, she likes CNC (Consensual Non Consent), and has other submissive kinds. Which I not only like, but was looking forward to practice with her.
Anyway, This Saturday we were able to meet up for the first time. I cooked dinner, and then we started watching cartoons (one of those things we have in common). Then naturally we start to make out, things get heated. Clothes start to be flung around.
But then she says "Not yet". I stop... we watch a bit more cartoons naked... then things get heated again. And she says No again.
I'm not a complete moron mind you, and I knew she was into CNC. So I asked her if this was it? Because for CNC, I need the Consent part and to know that. Also need to kind of agreeable way ta she can retract consent after we start.
She says it isn't, she just didn't want to have sex today. I respected her wishes. We continue watching cartoons and fooling around without sex. Until she said it was getting late and she need to go home.
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In my mind we had a perfect first date, I thought things were great. Well... Sunday we texted normally, she said she enjoyed our date and I said the same. Monday and yesterday she was kinda distant, but I guesses she was busy. But last night I asked her if she was free this weekend for us to meet again. She says she doesn't really want to go out with me anymore...
I asked what happened and she said she wanted to have sex Saturday, and I was "too week to get it out of her". I said I asked about the CNC and if that what she wanted, and she said that I bringing that up killed the mood completely and "dried her up".
So that's it. I lost a [apparent] perfect girl because I wasn't willing to have sex with her without her consent.
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TL;DR Invited girl with CNC fetiche that doesn't understand the the Consensual part of "Consensual Non Consent", she didn't like I didn't sexually assault her. Doesn't want to go out with me anymore.