Submitted by Taika_Jameson t3_10ktpl9 in tifu
My boyfriend who is very overweight started working out 2 weeks ago. I've been away celebrating Chinese New Year with my relatives for about a week, and I kept getting snide comments about my boyfriend's appearance and how I could do better the whole time I was with them, which is why my boyfriend's health was on my mind.
I just got back from my hometown. I'm going to visit his family later, so I called him up to confirm the plans and jokingly asked if he had suddenly became more buff in the one week I hadn't seen him. He got really upset and said he hated the fact that I'm putting so much pressure on him when he only just started exercising. I tried to apologize and explain that I didn't mean to pressure him, but was worried that I would hurt his feelings more so I was silent for a bit thinking what to say. He hung up after I apologized, but he was clearly still upset about it.
I have to go to his house later, and I'm not sure what to do now, things feel so awkward.
TL; DR: I hurt my boyfriend's feelings by indirectly calling him fat.