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Dimalen t1_j19dzj3 wrote

Reply to comment by Alwayspuzzles in TIFU by riding my bf by [deleted]

For sure! Also I think the other reason why it surprises me is when someone advises the grinding instead of bouncing, so many times the answer is "hmm I will try, didn't think about it" is so weird to me. That it's not even an option for many and the default action is to bounce

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za419 t1_j19dpin wrote

That's absolutely true, and that's why it's pointless to try to track everything they do. It gives the kid attacker's advantage - You have to stop them from getting through in a thousand ways, they only have to catch you not defending the castle once.

Which leads us to the question of goals. Why is it that this is a war? We already know we're going to lose, so all we achieve is blundering mutual trust.

Is the goal to slow them down from getting to see what they will manage to see anyway? Because by banning it, they'll be very interested in why it's banned, and you may well get it seen even earlier by providing that incentive.

I think the goal should be raising the child to be a well-adjusted, successful adult. Unless things go very wrong, they'll spend most of their lives as adults anyway.

And to that end, I'd argue a foundation of mutual trust, based on a parent and child being willing to approach each other and trust each other with their problems, even the ones that are embarrassing or difficult to talk about.

And therefore, I'd rather teach them how to be responsible and help them learn how to navigate an internet-connected life, than to try to box them up and present myself as an obstacle to get around. Because I believe that will provide a better foundation for a parent-child relationship, and for the development of a child into a person who will outlast me.

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lordbrett10 t1_j19czij wrote

You are awesome man, keep being a good guy!

Here is what's important, did you respect her boundaries or did she give you ANY alert she was uncomfortable.

If you respected the boundaries set beforehand. (YES)and you didn't get any vibes she was uncomfortable (YES)Then you did nothing wrong and more than likely bonded with her. But again I don't speak for her, don't read into it, could be anything at the same time could be her into you, we don't know we do not mind read lolz. Advice in the above comment :P

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Alwayspuzzles t1_j19cdbr wrote

Reply to comment by Dimalen in TIFU by riding my bf by [deleted]

Yea it is strange and I hope so til! I always assumed it was me who was built different when Ive read so much about how it is other womens favourite position. But I realise just now that I have had a different favourite position with every partner ^^

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bunnybuddy7 t1_j19b912 wrote

Not a fuck up. As a women if I asked to show a guy a tattoo that close to my booty I would be angling for more personally. Also she absolutely felt you touch her boob. But you are probably due for a convo with her. You should be very proud of your respect and ensuring not to cross boundaries and respect her personal space. It is great to know young people are more knowledgeable of cosent. Now like others have said in actually life its not always a exact yes or no when it comes to engaging in sexual behavior. In most cases it rolled out exactly how you said it did, are you comfortable, are you okay with this, please stop me if you don't like it.

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Dimalen t1_j19b7mi wrote

Reply to comment by 1mpri in TIFU by riding my bf by [deleted]

The pressure gives a stronger sensation in the right places I think, also it looks sexier to me, and grinding btw is also more pleasurable to my partner rather than bouncing, like we've been together for almost 4 years and we maybe tried bouncing once for experiment, so this is why it surprises me:D

So again, I hope it does not come as I judge it or think it's the wrong way, it's just that "being in the field" for a while and listening to my friend's experiences it's just weird to me that someone bounces? And it looks also awkward to me I don't know why, like, not sexy, especially when someone writes that they squatted while bouncing, it's like .... HOW AND WHY?

Also I am from a European country if it counts, because despite me having been to the USA before, I still realize that while both our worlds are the digitalized, civilized worlds we are very different TO THE CORE! It is interesting haha

Btw we recently watched a Bill Burr interview I think with Joe Rogan? And there he was talking about how it felt painful while the woman grinded because the woman being shaven hurts him while grinds and we just watched baffled like... HOW DO THESE PEOPLE FUCK THERE?? WHY DO THEY HAVE THESE ISSUES WHEN NONE OF OUR AQUINTANCE DOES?😂

Sorry I realize my surprise and experience may give you the same reaction I have regarding bouncing, it's just weird haha

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