My mind is racing like what if you ending up homeless and the 31yr old took you in? My mind is going everywhere with this.

You guys are at either end of the spectrum. There is fluidity with physical touch when it comes to consent, it’s part of the reason I posted this. I can’t figure my way out of the gray area. The OG commenter was right in that it seemed relatively mutual at surface level, you’re right in that there is a gender bias and the comment section may be different if roles were reversed.

I 100% agree that not all guys are jerks and that it's completely possible for a person of any gender to be good or evil. But, the jury of reddit would deliver swift judgement to a guy in the same situation.

The only way to play porn is at max volume

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That’s my thoughts. I’m worried I crossed a line

Lmao see: this entire comment section

Well I just recently had a bad breakup that he had to endure weeks of me bitching about, it could be misplaced feelings on my part

It's reddit. Most people that write stories here about their 'crazy lives' didn't leave the house for the past 10 years.

Your Aunt understands that there was grooming happening and a 31yr old knows better than a 18yr old. Also if you knew you slept with your gf’s niece why would you get back together with gf. It’s weird to me. Also the family shunning you is ridiculous. That’s why a lot young people get into relationships with older guys. Family is suppose to protect each other.

Oh I didn’t think twice about taking care of a drunk friend, living in college dorms does that to ya

We need an update. Following for and edit update. I think it will all work out in the end

Today he tells you how to eat pasta. Tomorrow he tells you what friends you can have and when you can talk on the phone. Get away from this controlling asshole

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Not necessarily. There are guys out there that respect boundaries. It's hard when all you read here are stories of how guys take advantage of women.

So you gave up the cookie and got nothing in return. The "cash me outside" girl at least got a bag of chips.

Nah my dad knew I'd go to my aunt he would never let me be homeless. Also I know for a fact that he calls my aunt every day and asks her how I'm doing.

you were just massaging her breasts last night and she didnt mind, girls know exactly what they're doing. Not to mention that you came to Reddit to discuss it because youre still thinking about it and clearly liked it. There's clearly something there mate.......... My statement stands

You are 17 years of age, i dont care if youre gay, bi or figuring it out... 9.5 times out of 10 men and women CANT be "best friends". This debate is very old and it becomes clearer with age.... Of course exceptions can be made but the general understanding is that unless 1 of them is uglier than their counterpart or gay, or unless there was already a failed attempt at changing the relationship, its not really a best friend relationship but a dormant platonic endeavor, in which 1 party is waiting for an opportunity... Dont lie to yourself, if you like this girl you must go and tell her what you're feeling like a man.

I'd start with this: Dear miss ex-best friend I cannot stop thinking about last night and i need help processing it, in person of course.

Good luck and get ready for massage part deux

Gender bias is strong with this one. This man’s space was clearly violated even if you read the whole story. You need to understand that the story in itself clearly shows that he felt uncomfortable. Probably no damage was done and they may end up together. But do not think that there was no crossings of boundaries here.

It's perfectly appropriate to pick up an oyster to eat it.

In Italy they twirl their pasta without a spoon.

He's straight up r/confidentlyincorrect material. This guy can fuck right off.

It happens. Identify it, acknowledge it, and move on. Your coworker boy toy will concur.

And on the other end of the spectrum two consenting adults decided to have a relationship when neither of them was in a relationship. On ethical reasons him being much older than her absolutely can signify grooming, it doesn't mean it actually happened. I think the family is just overreacting and sticking her nose in shit that's not their business

The blood of the Covenant is thicker than the water of the womb. Just because they're family doesn't mean they deserve to be in your life. Any parent who would be willing to throw away their child to the world without a second thought just because they decided to do something that was legal and consensual is not a fucking parent. They are an abusive asshole.

Im glad things are working out. Your family is Toxic as fuck. How I see it, is that too consenting adults who are both single at the time decided to enjoy each other's company. And then called it off. It's none of your family's fucking business what you do with your body. I'm glad you're aunt is at least sensible sort of. I understand why she's mad but then if she didn't want him playing with anyone she shouldn't have broke up with him. I'm sorry it turned out like this because you don't deserve it.

Dude, she likes you. Talk to her. Even if I'm wrong (unlikely), talking to her is still the way to go.