True. I don't care about their financial standing more socio-economical standing lol. But I haven't had many good relationships. I ideally want someone who doesn't have a substance issue, isn't married, only hit me consensually, and not vanilla. uh.. yeah. That's it.

Please do so, we'd all appreciate it very much. ARE YOU NOT ENTERTAINED??

This is exactly what I’m talking about - this complete bs. She did nothing wrong. If she had as much as kissed him, I might tend to agree. “Cuddling,” especially when they’ve done it before, is literally nothing, and doesn’t require reflection.

If anything in this story requires reflection, it’s the amount of alcohol each person induced.

It fits half way.

I don't see a single issue or problem here. Yall weren't both naked right? Then no biggie, keep it moving with life.

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I think a lot of people would be happy to hear they just cuddled after a drunken night than things going further. Pretty sure you're in the clear, since you both seem pretty ok with everything

So you gonna marry now or what?

Yeah all of us in the comments are rooting for y’all. If you guys aren’t touchy feely and ended up cuddling and enjoyed it, y’all like each other.

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Dating is for people looking to hump. They're already closer than that. Why move backward?

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It’s a KIA Sonet

I hope it goes well, and that this is an opportunity for growth. I feel like you're on the cusp of personally getting past some complicated issues we're grappling with in our society. I wish you well.

For what it's worth, even though it's not the right subreddit to say so, my vote is NTA.

I blame the permanently lighted dashboards. In my old 1996 Honda you'd know real damn quick if the headlights weren't on.

I feel like maybe this situation could be an opportunity to think carefully about where the line actually is. You have had a new experience and we all revise our perspectives when we gain experience. I used to think this was growing up, but now I realize it's just how life works.

Of course you were not evil. But it would be pretty miserable for you to not grow from this, and learn that situations like this one are extremely nuanced and not at all as black and white as people insist that they are.

A commenter below pointed out that 20 years ago this would not even be a discussion. That was obviously a problem back then. The pendulum has swung the other way. Perhaps if there were a middle ground things would be better for everyone.

You crossed a line if you decide that, even with new information, you are holding firm on the position of the line.

Measured response, pretty much agree.

There is a double standard for sure.

I think I replied to you before, but that is the purpose of this post. I am trying to work through whether or not I crossed a line or I’m over reacting, since things like cuddling or hugging can seem so inconsequential and juvenile to people. I felt I crossed a line and wanted other opinions so thank you for that perspective. We’re having lunch at his request in about an hour so we’ll see.

Lmao

One, he's a raging asshole, and that attitude doesn't get wiped out by his money.

Two -you have BPD. Could you possibly pick a worse situation for yourself, like, one certain to fuck up a person with BPD?

Your fuck up wasn't your manners, your fuck up is being in this situation at all.

You need to lay off the booze and drugs.

Hi, yes that’s what I find troubling and question about this situation. Thank you for pointing out what I was trying to gauge with this post, rather than other commenters who are like “just fuck already”

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I did see your last post and know your 18 but like, the fact that you refer to things like being grounded and being in high-school really brings it home that your still a kid. If I were in your families position, my anger would be directed at the 31 year old man who somehow thought it appropriate to sleep with his ex niece who is still in high school, not you. Anyway, I hope everything works out but yeah thats a shitty bill all around.