Man wth did I just read… I get having opposite gendered friends but if I had a gf that told me she slept in other guys bed with them, went to their family dinners while they were passed out drunk, and not to mention the cuddling???? Man I don’t even know what to think after this story, you’ve confused the piss out of me

I think you are over thinking it all. It happened yes, but it was cuddling not full on sex.

You could both just come to the same understanding that it happened and leave it at that and nothing more.

Did you upgrade from a Trabant?

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People who use spaghetti spoons are lying to themselves

Just take your shirt off and slorp down the noodles like everyone wants to

Is he your step brother?

Well massage part duex may be sooner than I expected... 😏

I am very sorry to hear that, I am also a survivor of childhood SA. I understand the long term effects of that kind of trauma.

However our daughter is fine. She has no context to know what she saw because she hasn't been sexually abused. And from reading other comments here it seems not uncommon that little kids might walk in on something and since they have no idea what they saw they are not traumatized, in fact a few comments have described their kids thought they were just playing or they simply forget this kind of five second issue where they were not in harms way. There was no fear involved to create trauma.

I understand in our brains, which have been warped by being betrayed in such a fundamental way by an adult who we should have been able to trust, that stable foundation is gone which would change the context perhaps for witnessing this on accident. But my daughter is not me and she is ok.

They know that I'm not as I have said

You didn't fuck up, you were groomed. He's 30 years old and should know better. How is no one else in this sub not seeing that? I'm 21 and would not touch an 18 year old with a 10 foot pole.

He kicked you out. Knowing you're in school and have no full time job. "Oh my daughter slept with my sister's fiancee when they weren't together at the time. Get out of my house. I'm sure someone else will take you in even though I haven't checked." Loves you too much? What? I know it's not my place and I'm not there but dude, he kicked you out for what I would say was a small mistake when you're at an age where you're figuring things out

>since my dad took my tablet away and I have no idea what my password was

You need a password manager!

Consider using Bitwarden.

Pick a strong master password, such as a passphrase with five or more words. Be sure to save your master password somewhere in addition to your memory.

There is a lot of good additional advice in /r/Bitwarden, but this will get you started.

Because she is basically my mom. I knew she would let me in when I showed up at her home. I mean yeah she was my last option because I was too embarrased to go there but I knew she would let me in

Your aunt is the nicest person on the planet. What you did was awful, you need to make it up to her in any way you can. Her ex is a creep, she deserves better.

He not into you. Don’t settle for someone who feels they need to correct you all the time. He sounds toxic

Nope. Sorry. That still makes no sense.

Did they talk? Is that part of your punishment to live with her? Like the idea was to make you think you were risking homelessness but the family knew your aunt was going to take you in?

Otherwise how would your dad know that the victim of your poor choice would offer such a generous solution?

Yeah that is pretty good but a traumatic experience is a traumatic experience.

I got all the things and more from what you mentioned up here in your sarcastic comment, but I (M) have been raped at the age of 3 by my grandfather so yeah, one traumatic experience can destroy someones life

I mean if they already gone this "far" and are still comfortable around each other.. Why not? Haha

Do you like him in a more then platonic kinda way?

A girl with a pick up! Marriage material!

I normally would but I’m the one who initiated the initial conversation and he was pretty caught off guard so I’m going to let him open up when he’s comfortable. We’re on our way to the dump to empty my pickup

shitty situation all around

Why don't you bring it up. It's not traditional for the woman to kinda start the relationship but it would make a better movie, lol.

Oh and it gets worse than that. She lives in a stable home with food security, has two loving parents to care for her, who love her unconditionally, who don’t neglect or abuse her, and who also love each other. She might turn out to be a kind a wonderful person, the shame.

In my car rn, he hasn’t brought anything up yet