Your father still has to pay child support if your aunt is going to take you in. You are in high school so the fact that you are 18 is irrelevant. You can take him to court for it and he might have to pay until you graduate college, depending on where you live.

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Oh my god that’s horrifying

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Right right to each their own I’m not trying to make you feel bad or anything. I personally just don’t know how I would receive this as a potential boyfriend. Maybe I should be more open minded idk but just seems like I would have chose couch or floor before sharing a bed with the opposite gender. Either way, yes there is something odd going on and it seems like a time will tell situation.

I mean I’m over my ex in the way that I have closure and I no longer Pine for him like if he asked to get back together I wouldn’t even consider it, that’s saying a lot because I would take him back in a heartbeat a couple months ago. I have had sex a couple times with one person since the relationship and I’m definitely ready sexually to explore new people, however I am not over how my ex broke my trust and became a completely different person before ghosting me all together. The way I feel is this is the second time I Heartbreakers end it in a way that I was left extremely confused and devastated and they were the two closest relationships I’ve had, so if someone that I was able to love and trust more than anybody can betray me, then like it’s gonna take me a while to be able to trust again

So I’m not doing that shit when I’m in a relationship, this is a close friend and I don’t know if that’s how I am as a person or of the area I live in, but pretty common for us, like my boss is one of my closest friends, I know his wife and kid, I take care of his dogs, he let me his truck for vacation and like I spent holidays with them, same goes for my other best friend and the only reason I haven’t met his family is because they live in Florida. There are very few people in a few circumstances where I would share a bed with them but they come up, i’ve never had many girlfriends but when I do this is a commonality so I’m not treating my opposite gender friends any different, the situation is a little unique though because there’s obviously something weird going on here

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So I would be fine with doing something like that, however I’m absolutely nowhere ready to do that and most of my relationships end pretty catastrophically, I haven’t figured myself out enough to hold it down, no matter how slow I go with someone or how mature and communicative I try to be with some And a matter how deeper connection is. If there are feelings there that I’m not recognizing yet, I am going to try not to act on them, we work together at two different jobs and I really don’t want to put that working relationship in jeopardy. I also don’t think we would be sexually compatible, he’s very reserved and even talks about sex in a way that cracks me up like he’s very matter-of-fact and alludes to stuff but never directly says it where I am vulgar and love it dirty

i don’t know why people are more mad at you then your “uncle”. he should know better than to sleep with someone who’s 1 barely legal and 2 practically family. i feel like five months of grounding is a bit over the top but i also don’t know your family and how the deal with punishments. from what you’ve told people, your dad is acting very unreasonable. uninviting you to family christmas is very very inappropriate imo. i’m very sorry this happening to you and i’m glad your aunt has your back. happy holidays🫶🫶

Good job not avoiding it and letting her go forward without that info. Hard to do, sorry about your dad hope he cools down. Aunt's a champ, be like her, I sure as heck wouldn't be that adult. Hope it works out

This is so frigging cute. Obviously you like eachother. But you are close so taking it slow is a good idea. Why don't you go on a couple of romantic "disney" dates. You know you spend time together but nothing sexual happens.

Sex is what defines a mature relationship. I mean you can be friends and share stories and secrets like you were dating but you may not be.

Obviously this guy doesn't want that feeling yet and wants to sip at the sweet nector of young innocent love a bit more before moving onto a sexual relationship, if that ever happens.

If you like him lead him down the path, hang out with him date him just don't fuck him yet.

Nice, gotta look up prices for them in my location 😁

EDIT: Dang I just checked, Sonet's aren't sold where I am, the closest thing I can get is either a Seltos or a Sportage

Well if that's how you truly feel (which i have my thoughts about) then a good talk and setting of boundaries are in order.

And you are sure you've not reached the point of moving on yet? No pressure but gut instinct is telling me otherwise 😇

He told me his mom kept coming up and whispering like “she fits in so well” since it was my first time meeting most of the family there. I’m boisterous as fuck so parents tend to enjoy the fact that I don’t shy away from conversation

I have no clue. I updated in a comment above, you’ll see it’s a wall of text but basically pretty anticlimactic

I'm a dad with a daughter around your age. I'm sorry to say but your dad is a raging asshole. He should understand that as a young adult you are going to make mistakes and to help you, not give you a wildly disproportionate punishment.

If my daughter was in that situation (especially with a guy more than ten years older than her), I'd be wanting to protect her from the fallout, not throw her to the wolves. The fact that you don't have your mother to support you just makes it especially egregious. I'm sorry you are having to deal with this. If you feel like it is unfair - well, it actually is.

I’m not even remotely ready to be in a relationship again and he is very much not looking for casual, he’s never liked casual flings

Wouldn’t let me update so here’s it in a comment

TL;DR FOR THE UPDATE BELOW: pretty anti-climactic we asked at our feelings and didn’t say anything to her directly but agreed that we both enjoyed ourselves and that it was very intimate and that we’re good

Update for those who asked: he bought me lunch and we sat in my truck eating, just shooting the shit like we normally do and I asked him to come to the dump with me because I could tell he was stalling and also needed help at the dump lol.

Some one here asked why I didn’t initiate the conversation, because I did the first time around and he wasn’t ready to talk about it and so I let him take his time.

eventually on the way back from the dump he kind of just was like “so… What’s up?” And I was like “well I’ve said my peace and you needed some time for the dust to settle” so then I let the silence go on for a little bit waiting to see if he can come up with some thing and I could tell he was struggling so I told him something true, but not necessarily some thing you need to say, just to kind of warm him up and what I said was “I’ll be be honest, when it comes down to brass tacks it was a really nice night it’s very nice to be held by another person that you trust and respect.” He agreed and was like “is there something going on is what I’m trying to figure out?” And I told him I honestly didn’t really know, like objectively he’s attractive but I did go through a break up that he knows about and so I tend to do stupid shit after a break up and I cited a guy that I was seeing casually that I jumped into a little too quick and I realize we are in a match and I had to awkwardly break that off. He knows about this guy and my qualms.

We parked and kind of just went back-and-forth about how we feel, I started with that no matter which way either of us is leaning, we both know that this would be a risk and I’m not willing to compromise for a friendship or working relationship cause you’re both really good. I told him that I’m not really sure it’s a tossup if I feel anything and even then I don’t trust my own emotions right now as I’m in a vulnerable place, he said there wasn’t really necessarily something going on with him but it also wasn’t necessarily something not going on with him if that makes sense? I apologized again and told him I’m sorry that I did that and he pretty much said it was mutual like I might’ve just been feeling that way because I felt weird and didn’t know what to make of the situation it was freaking out and not thinking logically

I mentioned that we’re both in our mid 20s and maybe it’s a little juvenile for me to be so worked up about this but our feelings are valid we both felt weird and didn’t know how to handle what was otherwise a good night, so obviously something was up. His discomfort was the same as mine, we woke up and we were cuddling and we were kind of just like what the fuck is happening. He doesn’t remember going to sleep whereas I remember watching the movie and falling asleep however he does vaguely remember at the very least inviting me to watch the movie in his bed. He said he didn’t have problems and I didn’t need to apologize because I was drunk and when he sobered up, he didn’t kick me out and wanted to continue to cuddle but admitted that we might’ve been making a big deal out of it cause it was very intimate and sexually charged at times but we agreed like let’s stop freaking out let’s let the dust settle we didn’t fuck everything‘s gonna be fine we just need to reign ourselves in a little bit.

Dealing with his mom really him is a whole Nother issue and I don’t I’m not gonna be subject to that thank God 😂 I can’t wait to hear what awkward questions she asks him

Just yolo it and have a threesome with your aunt

What is wrong with you OP? You say your aunt pretty much raised you and this is how you repay her? Have you not learned basic manners? Just saying he’s hot so why not? FFS you are so immature. There is no real remorse from you and you are pathetic. Obviously the guy is too but I am in shock you acted like this. No matter that you are only 18 doesn’t excuse basic decency. Gross!

I thought it was agreed upon that half your age plus 7 was the standard

Please update us after you're done chatting with him! :)

No, you're good. I didn't perceive it as mean. It is a fucking bad idea haha

You're just keeping it in family. A little brotherly love.