Your aunt has a very Red Foreman attitude. You definitely fucked up and are a dumbass here, but you're not a bad person.

Exactly he should be to blame if anything as that is an abuse of power.

There's it's nothing wrong or really abnormal here.

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I'm sorry you got kicked out. Honestly, this situation kinda sounds predatory to me, I think your family is being very harsh with you

To be fair, a lot of times when you’re dating someone for a while, you know what it’s gonna look like to indicate that they’re getting sick, I’ve never seen John The‘s truck so it had me a little worried

Oh well I guess you can wait and Maybe the timing will be right I the future.

There are guys out there that get less attention from their gfs/wives than your friend from you (talking about checking on while being drunk)

Yeah I spent wayyy too much time with my ex daily that just existing after that sucked for a while. And I think for guys it gets worse exponentially before it gets better. I feel you, I don’t think I can handle another breakup. The next one better be my wife

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What the fuck. That is pretty fucked up of you. Yes.

I hear what you say, thank you for being open and honest. When someone breaks trust towards/between two people it always has risidual effects.

I get the feeling that there's a little voice telling you it's your own fault, but it isn't. And youre fully ware that what one man does another very likely will not.

Don't let the bad experiences with your ex overshadow opportunitys of the here and now or tomorrow.

I don't see how it went from "He has back pain and PTSD" to handcuffed and institutionalized. That sounds like that would have qualified for a welfare check. Knock on his door, "Hey dude, you ok?" Not cops.

I feel you, let’s break up as one of the few times in my life I did feel lonely and god what a terrible feeling, specially shitty if you’re used to being alone most times like usually I love my independence but God does it suck after a break up and that’s the first thing I think about when I get to a relationship like God if this doesn’t work out it’s gonna suck so bad

Sounds like you need to figure out what you want at this point. I read you just got through a breakup, I’m in a similar situation and I don’t think I’m mentally or physically prepared to give my all to someone. But fuck it sucks being alone.

"Grooming is a process of manipulation and trust-building that a perpetrator will use to create an atmosphere where they can exploit a child. Grooming is about making a child think that abuse and exploitation is normal."

There is no way that a family member almost twice the age of a likely highschooler can have a consensual sexual relationship with them. Also, your attitude towards grooming is complicit in its societal acceptance. Hopefully understanding it better will change your perspective.

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Yeah no you’re absolutely right, it does make dating new people a little bit weird because all my friends are men. However, usually I will stay on the couch, only in certain circumstances will I not. For example, when my friend moved in with new roommates, a bunch of people sit over after a party on the couch and I didn’t feel comfortable with sleeping with strangers, so we made a pillow wall and I slept in my friends bed for his offer.

Honestly the more I analyze the situation, the more I realize that somethings amiss, the more we all got goofy and drunk with his family, more touchy he was in the more flirty we were and he was definitely getting close to my face while talking to me, I think drunk me got the offer to watch a movie in his bed which is much more common amongst friends, and when the offer came that I could stay in the bed I was like sure

What an immature interaction. Are you sure you’re old enough to be married?

Just a couple more years and my wife and I are good! Lol

Well, now that's the definition of karma

stop calling everything grooming

Whatever you choose with this guy, we all hope it works out! And like others said, you didn’t do anything wrong, you were there for a friend and two single people got a tiny tiny bit physical, totally okay. Might you have extra-curricular feelings for this person?

Lust isn't love. They sure like each others company, but I would still suggest for them to take their time if they feel like it