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I guess I could be overthinking but I just feel bad because I feel like without an explanation it kind of sounds like I’m saying “I want less rights” and I don’t want to be insensitive.

TBH I don't understand what's the issue here.
You don't mention if you or your friends are male or female (or other), but as a gay man I wouldn't have any issue with someone saying they wished they were gay.
Surely it's a compliment not something that they could hate you over?
Are you possibly over-thinking this?

I’m always surprised people never ask before using something at someone else’s house.

“Hey mom can I use the wrapping paper in the garage?”

“Oh that’s not wrapping paper. That’s wallpaper. The wrapping paper is in the closet.”

“Oh okay thanks!”

Clearly, my girls are getting a lot more than I am. They have eggplant on the brain.

>just a little hurt that our whole future together came down to chance.

Depending on how long she had Tink before meeting you...there's a good chance that had that dog needed to go outside to crap five minutes later or earlier just one time...it could have set events into motion differently enough that you never even met. Look at it that way, maybe.

I’m curious to know, if you don’t mind, which car it is

r/lostredditors.

It's obviously only a dick in a certain context. If the context doesn't suggest it, then it's just an eggplant lol.

You are overestimating it.

At the time, she didn't know you, so it's not the man of 17yrs that she would have rejected, but someone a little more than a stranger.

Now if she would get rid of you today over a dog, that's an entirely different thing.

Tink liked NO ONE. To know that I would have been pushed aside makes me feel uncomfortable. We built an amazing life together. It would have all been for naught.

Also, long term relationships she had before me the dog hated him as well, but he was allowed to remain...

Pretty much everything comes down to random chance.

Could be worse.

I passed out in a job interview once, because I ate something I shouldn't have, the night before.

A gram of hash. I ate a gram of hash the night before.

Still got the job, oddly.

How gaudy or plain is this wallpaper? My wrapping paper is either a solid or a very gaudy seasonal print, somthing that I would not want on my walls on Dec 27th.

Yeah. Not depressed or anything, just a little hurt that our whole future together came down to chance. That dog liked NO ONE.

FYI, told my oldest(15f) the story a couple minutes ago and her reply was "dont ruin Christmas over this". It feels good to know I have such a supportive daughter.

Sounds like maybe in January you should offer to buy this guy a beer (jk, lol, maybe a non alcohol related date that's deliberately a date).

Honestly, people underestimate the intuition of animals. Plus, even discounting that, animals are often a good barometer for checking a person's... I dunno, understanding of boundaries and consent.

Most (domestic) animals enjoy company, they enjoy the company of humans, but they have limits - they don't want to be pet a certain way and will snap if you ignore their warnings, or they don't like being snuck up on, whatever. The people they dislike are the people who refuse to learn to read their cues, and the people they like are the ones who make an effort to interact on their level. If a person can't get along with domestic animals, I usually take that as a red flag.

Look, if the dog hadn't liked you it would have been because you're an asshole and none of that stuff would have happened anyway.

Tink was, indeed, a good judge of character. Are you doing okay, though, that you're upset about this?

Right? Personally I prefer to use my chickens. When I see a person walking down the road I say “girls, scatter out if this person is good, gather together if they’re evil.” If the hens scatter out, I know not to be be afraid, if they gather round, I get my shotgun and chase the person up past the end of my property line. Same thing

Why would you be upset that she wouldn’t have dated you if her best friend didn’t like you?

my comment about lunch. Not much happened. I’m lazy and don’t feel like editing anything anymore so you got good timing and I’ll tell u what was said via text last night. He said “idk how or why it would, but if it happened again i would not complain”

Dude, this isn't an embarrassing memory, this is the culmination of years of studying, compiling, compartmentalizing, extrapolating, re-evaluating, refocusing, reviewing information. How do you put that into 40 minutes without having half a meltdown before. You did it, you didn't blackout and freeze, you passed, which means that you were not only coherent enough, but your presentation and subject was good enough to pass. Give yourself some credit, this is a huge thing that you nailed!

Put that notion of embarrassment away, you have 0 things to be embarrassed about. Huge congrats and good luck going forward! You got this

Congratulations. When you're a Dr. You can look back and laugh. Good luck with the next phase of your research!