You have nothing to be ashamed of, you can tell your family the exact same story about work that you told us. Tell them how tired you’ve been and how strongly you miss them right now. It’s not your fault you are so overworked, that’s what really caused all of this.

That's kind of social anxiety though. You weren't scared about her because there was something bad about her character, so you did a brave thing for you and learned something new, right? She seems to bring out a good side of you. You could tell her you're happy how you've worked out together, you value her and want to her to say around. How does that sound. Edit to add: Also it seems like part of her initial attraction to you was based on you seeming like a mysterious tough person to her, like maybe she had some fantasies about how you got some of those scars from fighting people in the street, things that might be like sappy romance novel stuff about a misunderstood protagonist tough guy. So it could be if you clash with the fantasy vibe that attracted her too much like by saying that she scared you, that kind of jolts her because she doesn't feel she's scary, and clashes with one of her fantasies for you. You are actually strong but just in your unique ways, but she has a more conservative upbringing and sees things through a little more typical lens, so if you're okay with it you could try to keep her feeling good to stoke the fires of romance. Hope this can help too.

Can someone post a picture of this atrocitie please? TIA

Very festive- I’ve seen it on Twitter and all the comments are saying it looks better as wrapping paper than it would on the walls

The root cause of your issue is that you are working too much and not setting boundaries with your boss, who is doing a shitty job of running the business by forgetting orders and overpromising.

This year's Christmas is going to be what it is, but you owe it to yourself to make it the last one where work takes such a toll on your physical and mental health.

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Pets knows. I volunteer at a cat shelter and we have cats avoiding some people all the time. I remember a couple of people coming in to see a cat they saw on her Facebook post and the cat sniff them and went "No thanks" and left.

Tinkerbell thought you were a good person and since you have been together for almost 17 years, he was right.

This is some “ would you still love me if I was a worm” kind of shit

Make the dinner yourself. That's hot AF. If she brings it up, tell her she made you brave, spin the story.

Are you the brother who used the €70 wallpaper?!

If the dog didn’t exist, it was still down to several other layers of chance.

Wrapping paper for xmas usually have xmassy colours and/or motifs, wall paper usually doesn't, and did you never retrieve at your home growing up before?

Saw it on twitter, it was an ugly wallpaper so you did your mom a favor haha.

Your daughter sounds like she tells ya like it is :)

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The real FU is your interpretation of things.

When I was about 10 my mom told me she wished she never had met my dad. When asked about me and my siblings, she was like - eh. This is not what's happening here.

You are literally overthinking this to find the bad in it. Reframing it to make yourself some kind of victim here. You're not, she's not, and the dog did you a solid.

You had ZERO investment at that time - none of anything you had happened had happened yet. And unless she's saying she wished the dog picked differently, all this means is that her system worked.

In fact, that's the thing to take away from all of this: her system worked. So be glad she had a system that worked for her (for both of you, really). Whether it was a good system doesn't matter.

And stop framing it like she would have thrown away everything you built up just because the dog had a bad day - you hadn't built up anything at that time and no one can see into the future like that.

Eggplants, like penises, come in many different shapes and sizes. Some are long and thin, some are short and girth, some are shirt and narrow, and others football-shaped and sized.

So... shrug

I suppose that it all depends on your eggplant.

Congrats, you passed!

You accomplished the objective. You passed the candidacy. Let the rest go. It’s not worth the energy to regret it or be embarrassed by it.

This just gets better and better.

It was not.

Where’s the fuckup?

It wasn’t chance - it was that you made her comfortable and her dog knew that and so her dog was comfortable with you. It wasn’t the dog deciding to like you, it was HER and the dog followed suit.

What people really are expressing when they say something like this is - my dog knew I loved you and could sense that comfort level with you and so she was comfortable - it has nothing to do with the dog “picking” you and everything to do with her getting confirmation you were a good one by her dogs reaction.