I assume it’s the whole ‘I didn’t say yes because I liked you, It’s because I was scared’ thing, but yeah, I’m hoping to talk to her about it. It just helps to sweeten her up a little first so that she actually wants to listen.

I'd say your daughter is smart lol

Same! My old dog was also a judge of character. They know.

I say both comments are about equal so all fair now.

She said you were a bore and you said she was scary...

I don't understand why she would be mad, all that matters is that you said yes and you are now in a happy relationship. Talk I guess, I find talking things out is always the best thing for me and my partner

Think you did the right thing tbh, made lovely wrapping paper but would cause me a migraine having that on the walls. Now you need to top it off and go and open one of the Christmas day drinks...

Absolutely. My husband and I often joke about all the random chance that has brought us together, and given us our daughter.

If you really want to get deep into chance - if the asteroid that caused the Cretaceous mass extinction had hit just a few minutes earlier or later, it would have changed the location and angle of impact just enough that things could have gone significantly differently.

Everything comes down to chance. The fact that you're living today is the result of a billion little chances that could've gone the other way, but didn't.

I mean, there's an endless list of things that had to go "right" for you to even just meet your wife. You'd be butthurt for the rest of your life if you thought about all the things that could've prevented you from being together.

Best not to worry about things you can't change, and just thank Tink for making the right choice.

“Wrapping” paper

is everything okay at home? who hurt you?

I am ya, we have been watching it go up throughout the day. I thought I'd try and capitalise on it a bit if possible.

It's like asking her, 'if I was born in another country, would we have gotten together' Of course the answer is no, think about all the potential life long partners you could of had if you were born somewhere else.

We are all a slave to circumstance, don't be sad how you gott here, just appreciate what you do have.

You are developing some mental illness due to what seems to be overwork. If you want to prevent it from progressing further, you need a break where you actively try to heal. Like maybe a couple of days of rest and deliberate stress reduction, then a few days of satisfying your needs like making sure you have a good social group, feel some pride in yourself and your lifestyle (like cleaning up yourself and your home) and maybe consider some light volunteering or something.

You seem really burned out and you have an opportunity and responsibility to address that. It won’t get better without actively fixing the issues (overwork, poor self care, weak social networks, etc),

I'm now wondering what room(s) the mother was intending to wallpaper with that, because it's an interesting choice... I can definitely see why OP thought it was wrapping paper!

Hey love that she was very honest. That is probably why you guys work so well. And it sounds like she passed it on to your daughter too. All the love and happiness to you and what sounds like a great loving family. ❤️

Yes! That dog definitely knew.

Who hurt you, Clarence?

I was wondering too, so I found it on Twitter!

Wallpaper/Wrapping Paper Tweet

That wasn’t sarcastic btw, I’m genuinely all of those things, if just seems that my girlfriend is into that I guess.

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Hey OP, instead of getting yourself down thinking about could haves, let's talk about what actually happened - out of all the people your wife had introduced to Tinkerbell over the years, every ex boyfriend, out of all of the guys Tinkerbell could have decided were good enough for her human, you were the one she chose, the one that she deemed good enough for your wife, better for her than every other man she had brought home before. All those other guys were judged and found lacking, but you? You passed the test. And that is something to be proud of.

Wow you just described me so well. Here’s a round of applause for being able to accurately guess the personality of someone who you’ve only read one post about so well 👏👏👏

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It’s fine, it’s just an inside joke between us about how introverted I am compared to her usual type.

Don't beat yourself up to much. Sometimes Christmas is just another day. As I sit here at work on my train waiting for a 6am Xmas morning departure, the ex-wife and kids are 800km away, and even though I'll go to my parents later today, part of me just want to go home, go to the beach for a swim and then down a 6-pack and watch the cricket. It ok to hate on Xmas a little bit. It can lose its magic when you get older. Do want you want today. It'll be better for your mental health.