"And to this day, she still uses her She-Wee"

If he’s really a friend I can’t imagine he would find that a pervy comment rather than a jokey one

Without malice or ill intent, you need to speak with someone.

This decision making process is not something a healthy brain does. These are not the choices of a health mind. I know it might not be acceptable to some cultures, but you are suffering from at least one mental health issue. I promise you talking to a licensed therapist will cost you less than $400usd and will provide you with more perspective and self confidance than a sex worker.

It is no different to having a broken arm or sore back, you mind needs some help to get healthy. A metaphorical brain cast to help heal some wounds. You cam even ask your GP for recomendations if you have a doctor. Trust me it is worth it.

And ppl like u r a big reason y ppl off themselves. U should never talk to anybody depressed in any way, especially when they r trying to get it off their chest and know they fucked up. He isnt trying to say he was justified. He fucked up, he knows it, and everybody knows alcohol fucks ur ability to do most things so u cant say he should never b alone again because of a fuck up while drunk.

Still together, wow!! Congratulations and Merry Christmas!

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You didn't google shit 47 years ago.

I mean it's always been a secret dream of mine to piss standing up.... I would have married you also!

No; Google as a company began in the late '90's. Like, I'm 26 and am older than Google I know. Before that there were other search engines. But 50 years ago, in the '70's? Not sure that home internet was really even a thing back then

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More like the expectations men have of themselves

He’s trying to get perspective and there isn’t exactly a rulebook for how a man can make up for this so no I’m not pro-rape in any way but I’m not gonna be shit to him either. It’s not my place to judge him my opinion is irrelevant when he’s asking how to go about making up for it.

Ugh, that’s awful. I know it’s really hard now, but it will get easier and you will realize that you have more interesting things ahead of you than behind you.

Are you dense??? I’ve made it clear there is no justification for what he did but who are you to absolutely shit on someone who’s already defeated. Nobody says you have to like him but you’re not doing anything for the situation altogether

I get your point, but the way you’re coming across is a little pro-rape vibes. I was in a similar situation as she was, and I’ve never gotten over it. It ruined my life.

At the end of the day, he knew she had a past trauma about this, he allowed himself to get so drunk that he “couldn’t control himself.” (I don’t believe that.)

People turn into their real selves when they are drunk, and they VERY LEAST we know (by his own admission, so he probably left some stuff out) is that she asked him to stop, and he did not. That’s the kind of people who do terrible things, and he did. He probably ruined her life.

So? Does he need help? Absolutely! Because he has a problem. Like, a REAL problem. I think he needs to understand the damage he has done, but he doesn’t! He’s still taking up for himself in the comments! Bruh.

You’re a piece of fucking shit. I’m not even going to finish reading. You SHOULD be ashamed of yourself. Next time find a cave to cry alone in so u don’t need to manipulate women even more and make them feel bad for not letting you rape them. You are a fucking freak.

Right cause if so I'm in the wrong line of work

Gotta get the cleaning kit!

Tells a lot about expectations we have of men these days.

Edit: Due to downvotes, I'd say this subject is too sensitive for further discussions.

We aren’t able to give him the professional help he needs nor are we able to intervene as law enforcement so at the end of the day the only thing we can do is recommend a way to move forward or are we just gonna stick with useless bashing?

I never said it was an excuse. For the millionth time bashing someone who’s seeking help because they clearly fucked up does absolutely nothing in the end. How does calling him out like a middle schooler make any difference ??

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Yeah. That’s the real question here.