My fiancé grabbed a random girl at the bar one night thinking it was me. Literally between the legs and scooped her up to have her turn and obviously be very upset. He immediately started apologizing and came running to find me about 5 feet away seated at the bar. He was pale white and said ‘I did something bad!’ He proceeded to tell me what happened and then pointed her out - she was in almost the exact same outfit, boots and all, and from behind would be very hard to tell the difference between us due to dim lighting (she’s redhead and I’m very blonde). Poor guy was mortified! I ended up going up to her and apologizing on his behalf and explaining the situation- ironically we all became friends after this as she knew other members of our group. And that’s how my fiancé narrowly avoided SA charges 😂

Oh I mean I kinda thought she did too. Based on setting the beds up together, saying “you can touch my chest”, and the general eagerness to see OP.

(NOT AT ALL CONDONING THIS, I just think maybe she initially liked him… but… now he’s absolutely ruined her trust. Even after she told him about her previous assault. Really, really terrible)

Don’t be shy! Defend the rapist. Cmon! We’re waiting.

What I meant was: all people are neurodiverse to some degree. We all have traits that would be considered signs of autism, but some people have more than others or are impacted more by them, and that's when it gets diagnosed as a disorder.

Autism is not a clearly defined genetic or physical trait; the line we draw to say someone has it is artificial. Autism being a complex disorder almost necessarily means some factors will occur in nearly all people. There's like hundreds of genes that relate to it

NOW it is... after he edited it :)

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What's wrong with the setup? It's far better than most longer write ups, and it's sectioned appropriately I would say.

Lol. Kentucky Jelly for Christmas.

i think you've explained it pretty well here. suggestion:

1. move the edit (clarifying the crush stuff) to the top of the post text
2. flick her a link to this post

she'll either understand or not, but at that point you can let it go and let her make that decision

Yea you gotta put a hard stop on this shit. You knew she had feelings for you in the past and it sounds like you went pretty far, even if you didn't have sex. She 100% has taken that as you're interested now, but you aren't. I would think you're interested too if I were in her shoes. You're leading her on, even if it's not intentional. Best way to salvage that friend ship is tell her bluntly that you aren't interested and that you're sorry for taking things too far when you were both drinking. Plus, obviously, don't do it again.

Seek help

Maybe your Uncle would have liked it.

Yes. Exactly! I went to write this up and realized I had no idea what a lady pee funnel thing is called.

Yes u bear reaponsibility. Still not death. Thats still not the appropriate punishment for this.

Edit: please also note that if all ppl could control their alcohol issues, aa would not b nearly as needed in society

Should've kept it in there.

At what point did i say he shouldnt b in trouble for what he did? He should c a therapist, so should she, if charges r pressed he should own up to it and face the legal consequences. In case u werent sure, the legal system tends to dislike ppl committing suicide and prefers ppl to attone for their crimes. This is why the death penalty is rare and is usually reserved for mass murderers and the like. He fucked up, but she isnt dead and can be helped. He made a stupid fuck up and needs mental help for the depression, the issues with interacting other people, and likely controlling himself and alcohol.

Not that brand. That brand name came along later. But we had something similar in Canada back then.

Sounds like a She-Wee for the chicks in your life is the way to go, present wise. Now they can experience the joy of writing their names in the snow, without the hassle of having to scuttle around like a crab to do it.

Boo hoo. Dont drink then. I and many others dont drink. If you KNOW you have issues and that you could potentially be a liability then maybe don't choose to ingest a substance that impairs your ability to make good decisions.

Nobody needs to get drunk or take drugs.

You can't sexually assault a girl then go "ah well I was drunk oopsie, not totally my fault though haha" You chose to drink, you bear responsibility for your actions while intoxicated.

Omg I can't believe I keep seeing this comment. Lol. Clearly I need to work on how I phrase things. No of course Google wasn't around then. But if you would like to see what it looked like you can Google that term today with Google now and see what it looked like back then.

People like you are why rapists get off with a warning and victums of sexual assault off themselves. You take zero thought into how the victum feels, this isn't depression, this isn't something that you can take back. This is sexual assault and there should be zero tolerance for it.

Bahahha that would be an entirely different FU wouldn't it? :)

I agree. And I didn't say I did. But perhaps my post was unclear. I was saying that if you want to see what it looked like you could Google it now.