Oh yeah, that's rough. Sorry about that. All my family members only grew and sold weed back in the day, and smoked the crack. Not well off enough to traffick or do coke 😅

You need to eat, honey. You’re not going to deal well with life’s little annoyances (and yes, these are little annoyances) if you haven’t eaten anything in 48 hours. It’s not healthy. I don’t know what you’re punishing yourself for, but you aren’t gonna get your head right if you don’t take care of your body.

Frankly, I don't believe you have the right to cry about this. You fucked up. You should feel bad. This woman told you that she has trouble trusting men, and had been sexually abused in the past. Even when I drink, I feel no urge to molest my friends, neither do any of my friends. You need help. You also deserve judicial punishment. Regardless of how she treats it or if she doesn't want to report, you molested her. The right thing to do would be repent and turn yourself in. I know you're not going to do that, but you're going to have to live with the guilt of traumatizing this woman. I hope you lie awake with guilt every night, and she does alert the police. This is inexcusable. Feel bad, but you have no right to be as "devastated" as you are. Despite being drunk it was still YOU that molested her.

Normal people don’t love getting blackout drunk. They like the buzz of one or two drinks. Binge drinking is for college kids. Hangovers suck.

Glad you and your family are okay, OP! Never discount a woman's (and especially mamma's) intuition. 😉 But seriously, I am very glad you and yours are okay.

Not only that but literally made HER comfort HIM immediately after by bawling about some random ass shit.

Sure, I’ll do it. Dude fucked up on an astronomical level but it was obviously a mistake done through a complete lack of self control, and consideration rather than an act of malice or a desire to manipulate/take advantage of someone. I hope the girl harmed through his actions will find healing and that OP will learn from his mistake, grow as a person, and stay the fuck away from alcohol for a while. Context is important and this kind of violent reaction is never the right response, hate only creates hate.

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It's not stomach infection it's called a hangover newbie lol

You seem insufferable.

Sound like a whiny brat to me.

None of the guys were helping but your BF kept leaving to help?

K.

You're an adult, manage your own blood sugar levels.

As for the asshole family? You're probably better off without them anyway. I know the knee-jerk reaction here is to say dump them, but dump them and find better. It won't get better there.

Ya that's not an alcohol issue... that's a self control issue.

yep. me, SIL. Similar situation. Lucky for me, wife and sis in law are aware of their similarity in height and build, and they have now agreed not to wear similar outfits.

There isn’t a rule book because sexual assault isn’t something you can “make up for”. The fact you keep defending him is literally pro-rape. “Oh but he’s depressed! Oh but he was drunk! But he feeeeels baaaaaaaddd!!!”

Do you plan on telling your friends and family that have been sexually assaulted to “make up” with their abuser?? Genuinely asking because for someone that swears you’re not defending him you seem to be doing just that; defending him. He’s a grown ass man, not a child. He knew what he was doing was wrong. There’s no way he suddenly forgot that no means no and there’s absolutely no way he thought her slapping his hand away meant he should try again later.

>The realization of what happened is hitting me now, and I'm barely hanging on.

You made it out ok. Car might not be fine, but at least your wife and kids are. Good luck!

Thanks. The realization of what happened is hitting me now, and I'm barely hanging on.

As for the finances, they will get better soon. Just started a new job (that is almost double what I was making previously) and haven't got a full paycheck yet.

Turns out when you fuck around, you will find out.

Glad you are ok... hopefully things turn around financially, too

what the hell are you talking about? The guy was putting pressure on himself because he was insecure, not his girlfriend, not any of his friends, himself. Tells us absolutely nothing about societal expectations of men because as far as I know nobody is expecting a virgin to pull out expert pornstar moves.

so… she had to tell you to stop physically assaulting her twice, you broke down and made it about you when she was the wronged party and she comforted you(!!!) you tried to apologize and she didn’t accept it, and asked you to leave her alone. and here you are again, disrespecting her boundaries because of YOUR feelings and agenda. notice a pattern here? if you want to “make things better” leave her alone. go to therapy. own up to your shit, and for the love of god stop drinking.

edit: it doesn’t matter if you “meant no harm”. you literally assaulted someone who did not want to be touched by you repeatedly. that was the harm.

Don’t listen to these people when your sleeping over a girls house she knows you like her you make a move and they react accordingly you don’t ask every time you have a first kiss do you she stopped you and you going for seconds that’s the part that might run her off but if she likes you she’ll forgive u it’s not that bad

First step to getting help is admitting you have a problem and need help

I’d call it a joke but misinformation is certainly accurate too so fair enough.

Your mum should’ve checked to make sure there weren’t any cards in the piles of wrapping paper she was cleaning up. Most Christmas cards get buried under wrapping paper in favour of the presents they came with and the other present’s wrapping papers. It’s only logical to check. On the flip side, if you knew the card contained money then you should’ve put it somewhere safe like in your room or in your purse/bag if don’t live there.