How do you ruin a friendship by getting into a relationship? That is the way for the best relationship ever.

why are people like this. just develop a relationship without ruining the friendship

Out of arguments so throwing strawmen it is? Figures. I'm not assuming anything, you yourself have said being DUI and that's a telltale sign of low intellect or very bad addiction. Drunk drivers are scum of society.

"Sorry if" isn't an apology and taking responsibility.

"Sorry if" blames the person you're apologizing to for being mad in the first place.

400/hr is not cheap. You’d also have to be pretty unlucky to contract 4 stds from a brief moment of exposure.

Also, how do you know you have HPV?

72 km/h (45 mph) is still too fast in icy conditions. I'm happy you're all OK, though. Just don't do it again.

Communicating your wants and needs gets better with practice. At this point you have 2 choices, break up for your own sake or stay together for his. It's never too late to tell the truth. Don't wait for the right moment, just get it over with. You could always do it by text and then block him if you want to be avoidant and passive about it.

Another angle to consider is why is he lying? And what about? Some people lie out of reflex, as a response to trauma, to avoid conflict or to prevent you from being disappointed. In the microsecond one has to decide on what to say in response to a question, some people's brains are wired to give the answer that they think will be the most pleasing or least upsetting to the listener. I'm not saying that helps you to trust him necessarily, but if it's something automatic that he does, and over the stupidest things, then he may not be able to help it and it may have nothing to do with you.

If he's lying to control and manipulate that is much more sinister.

If you are done just get it over with, otherwise you are wasting everyone's time. You'll feel better once you do.

Oh okay. Thanks !

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I am OCD about Xmas bags, trash, wrapping paper, & everything on Xmas. Threw away 1, $25 gift card while I was in college. Never Forget!

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Seriously WTF. Your mother needs therapy dude. She has obsessive compulsive disorder.

"Looks like trash" is not equal to trash. That's stupid logic.

First of all she's not supposed to touch your stuff - that's basic respect of your personal space.

Second if she's gonna throw something she's gotta check thoroughly if it's TRASH OR CASH.

Third, who TF throws random stuff into their fireplace? I thought that only happens in movies as a symbol for erasing a memory.

There also doesn't seem to be an expectation in the house to clear your own trash. She's taken it upon herself to be the instant cleaning lady for everyone. That's terrible parenting.

Did you ask your grandma how much she put in the card? Find out, then tell your mother to replace the money and add some extra for the trauma she caused you.

PS: People, please stop taping cards on top of your gifts. Give the cards separately OR include the card INSIDE the gift (in an obvious way).

It's much more reasonable to go on these conversations when there's no trigger like my comment there. The same conversations goes on elsewhere, where the attitude isn't so full of hate. No point of continueing in here.

I don't intend to hide behind the alcohol, I am completely aware that this is my own fault and I don't want to run from the accountability. The only reason I mentioned the alcohol was to get the events across as accurately as possible. I don't have a drinking problem so I don't really think an AA meeting would do much but staying away from alcohol all together is definitely something that I am contemplating right now. As is therapy.

Don't reflect your own insecurities at me. I'm not the person for you to try your kitchen-psychology diagnostics. You don't know anything about me, and if that's your argument, there's some seriously sick twist in your style of dialogue. You can't just assume people are this and that, represent a group you don't know they do, aren't what you think they are. If we're going that route, I might aswell make the a conclusion that you are even worse, maybe the rapist?

You've got a drinking problem. Seek therapy and look up AA meetings. It doesn't seem like you're truly holding yourself accountable here due to the constant reminder of how drunk you were. This could escalate to serious problems in the future.

The claim isn't a fact as it is. OP, however also thought experience is expected and is a male. I can't really relate into that anymore because it's been twenty years when I was a virgin, and haven't exactly been unexperienced for a while now. I got rid of my virginity quite early so I didn't feel the pressure that much, but I would think it'll go up as years go by. To my knowledge, unexperienced companions aren't exactly preferred among more adult people, so I would imagine the pressure must have been hard.

Sounds like an unbearable experience. I think you made the right decision to leave, because it doesn’t sound like anyone was going to give you the basic kindnesses you deserve. Your bf is also an asshole at the very least for getting mad at you instead of being understanding, given the fact his dad is a raging asshole.

I don’t think your bf loves you nearly as much as you do him, and it won’t get better, judging from his behaviour and the expectations his family set up. It’s probably best he becomes your ex, for your own well-being, because these people will only take your love for granted.

The getting drunk immediately when nobody else was is definitely a self control issue. His actions after, while not excused, are almost certainly a result of the alcohol which removes inhibitions and lowered self control even further.

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"Yup, and I'd do it again to any little snot that annoys me in the future." then give her the dirty stare you've ever given anyone.

Edit: And don't forget to pull your mobile phone out and wave it around every time you see her for the next 6 months.

Obviously don't actually hurt her, but you've gotta fight fire with fire here.

Or maybe you are just wrong? You will never grow as a person if the moment you get criticized all you can think is they are too sensitive for the topic

I have 0 empathy for you. You should be locked up. You've given her more trauma and pain. You should turn yourself in.