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Read the freaking post, everyone here is quick to judge OP and interested on insulting him rather than being willing to help or offer advice. ....not saying that what OP did was right, he also assumes this himself....but you don't see me here bashing the guy over what he did or calling him drunk. Almost everyone here is more interested on calling the guy a molester rather than actually offer advice or help that he is asking/ looking for. Give me a break, by the way, the woman in my life also suffers from depression, she being medicated and I am right next to her to help and support her the best way that I can.

She’s overrating. You stopped and listened. Young generation is so messed.

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go up , or Flat-line !

i hate when people say If you’re at the bottom the only way you can go is up!

No one is triggered. Triggered is a psychological response to trauma. Not thinking someone is wrong.

People thinking you’re an idiot is not them being emotional.

FML. Similar situation which happened a month ago. Getting into it with her on top. She asked me to slap her ass, and so i obliged. Harder still, again i did. She asked for a third time, except this time i nailed one of my testicles with an overarching finger.

I immediately turned towards the affected side throwing her off my bed and onto the tiled floor. I hit myself so hard that i was worried i might have to check myself into emergency. It hurt for a month straight. She's fine too.

So basically, you have no self control and will probably rape someone. You're a piece of shit. Burn

I hate these tifu posts that start with "this happened 50 years ago". Totally sounds like they fucked up today.

Politics have moral undertones? No, they don't. There's just people who make politics their morals because they lack morals anywhere else. If my voting choice is what makes me moral, then I can do whatever I want the other 729 days that I'm not voting.

I don't know of a single family who has healthy relationships that agrees on politics. The moment someone starts saying that you're killing people by voting Republican, you need to exclude that person from your life.

You kind of are a brat. All families are politically divided. It's really unhealthy that you see this as a problem. His family doesn't like to argue, they simply care enough about each other to share differing opinions. You're also in for a rude awakening if you ever want to throw a get together and then expect guests to work in the kitchen.

You just need to grow up.

Thank you kindly. Yes I do hope sincerely that she can heal from what I have done to her and I will try my best to help others. You have a good day too.

I hope she gets good therapy and moves on from this. I hope you learn from this and help a lot of people. Have a good day.

No, this means a lot actually. I don't mind if you feel disdain and no sympathy, I don't know you and what I have done is not deserving of sympathy in my opinion either. What you said about making sure to prevent other women from going through this reinforced me in my idea to devote my career to exactly that, as I have discussed in another comment. And you're right, there's nothing left for me except rehabilitation and staying away from her.

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If you didn't say anything, she would have got worse. This isn't a once off, it's a pattern of behaviour that she doesn't know how to break. You got her help, hopefully she gets what she needs.

Probably an unpopular opinion here but your a father.

Your first priority is protecting your child and your next priority is protecting yourself so you can protect your child.

If she needs help, that's the right thing as without it, she is a potential threat to your child.

Life isn't a fairy tale. She's cheated on you twice and clearly has things going on that need addressing. Start valueing yourself. And step up.

You will do, it’s not a situation that has much immediate positivity and the benefits from it won’t be seen for a while because she’s still in crisis and your mind will be rocked by it all. Your lifestyle has changed drastically but you have to keep on trooping; it’s okay to feel bad, down and completely lost but know that there are people and places that you can go too to, to get help and support. You’ve got this dude, you just need to worry about the things that you can control and try your best one day at a time, the issues you can’t control are out of your hands.

I feel no sympathy for you. I know this will likely mean nothing to you, especially as I have made my disdain clear, but if you are truly remorseful for what you've done, never drink again. If you won't be punished by law, make something of yourself and this experience. Don't drink, and devote yourself to protecting women when possible. If she has to suffer through this, then you can use your privilege and experience to help other women and prevent this from happening to them. Also, seek therapy and don't harm yourself. However reprehensible your actions might have been, it won't solve anything. Rehabilitation is always the goal. I also suggest that you not contact her ever again, for her sake. It's the best thing you can do for her.

Drunk me would do stupid shit that I would never do sober. Nothing terrible. But enough for me to chill with alcohol because it simply wasn’t me. I have an occasional drink, but I now know that I’m just not a good drinker. And such a lightweight lol

Found one of the boyfriend’s family members.

It’s only a FU if you stay with this guy. If he was being sexist to you then you might want to rethink investing in any more time with this chump.

I read these Xmas gift mistake stories all the time and can’t help but wonder how uptight some people’s families are.

Seriously, my family would just laugh.

You all need to ease up and be a bit less anal.

But he did drive. Which is just a dead sentence

I am always working on myself and on becoming a better person, so don't worry I was always planning on taking the necessary steps myself. Staying away from alcohol, seeking professional help and maybe at least finding a way to help prevent this from happening to others since I can't fix the damage I have done with Becky. And you're right, I shouldn't have asked this much of my best friend, that was unreasonable of me. Thanks for reminding me of that.