Sure rn you're shaken up about nearly dying in the past, but you're critically ignoring the fact that you're never going to be able to win an argument with your wife again.

Glad you're ok OP!

Alive means future Christmas' :D

Good luck hopefully the swellings going down

If only....

Many of the specialties I had to pass on are only on offer around Christmas time. But I still thoroughly enjoyed my family and the their enjoyment of the gifts and food. And the apple pie was nice while it lasted.

I mean, hey: I'm still alive. That's worth more than a meal!

Sounds like exactly what my ex did to keep me trapped with him for almost 4 years.

No that’s soooo true. My early 20s were a dark time in my dating life haha

Politics absolutely have moral undertones. Everything has moral undertones. Dismissing the notion itself betrays your own morals, as does the particular example you choose to give at the end of your post.

This is statistically unlikely. But sure man

You literally fucked around and found out

How will you ever surpass these tribulations

From someone who has been molested by "friends" its awful specially bcs it has happen with people i was comfortable with and would never think they would do something like that to me.

I am glad you understand that it was wrong and u want to apologize(even tho it probably wont change how she feels(at least it didnt with me)but who knows) if i were u i would give her some space, she seems to need it so dont insist she can think that u only want to apologize to her to do something again or maybe she is not comfortable being with u anymore. Whatever it is just keep in mind she went through a lot and what matters is for her to be ok...not how she feels about you nor what will happen between u two I would also recommend talking with someone. I hope this is the first time u did something like this and it doesnt have to be a therapist but at least someone that will listen and try to help you so you wont want to unalive urself bcs even tho what u did is bad you did stop and u did realize that you did something terrible(there is hope). Dont torture urself bcs of something that happen in the past u wont be able to change it im not saying u should just move on but i think u should just take a deep breath and think what can u do to live with that bcs if everyone decided to kill themselves the second they did something they regretted deeply then alot of people would be dead.

Pls work on urself and make sure she is ok dont press on her too much let her have space but if u get the chance to talk to her make sure she is feeling better! I hope i helped at least and btw im sorry if any word is wrong engkish is not my first language.

Edit: thank you for mentioning u did have alcohol in ur sistem but not blaming ur actions on it really that means alot to me since thats a very very common excuse!

You're right. He's not actually a rapist. He did however sexually assault his friend and if she chooses to report the crime and he's prosecuted I hope no one like you is on that jury because he DID sexually assault her and he should face consequences for that.

I’m appalled by the fact that you put some greasy ass chicken in your coat pocket

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Oh my dude I get gout plenty (a lot less now) and am diabetic so I can totally emphasise with you and how much the attacks suuuuck.

I always try to keep a pack of frozen raspberry in the freezer just in case. And being on progout as a preventative measure seems to mostly work.

Try not to sit and stew in your thoughts, by the sounds of it you've done amazingly and I'm super proud of you. Your learning what your limits are and what your body can take.

Maybe have a get together in January or February. It might not be the same but you can still have that Christmas-y moment.

You're right, of course, but at 20 I probably wouldn't have realized that either.

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Used to have this issue with shoes, always take it by centimeters or inches so you can get the right fit. :)

I know this may sound harsh but, it was a “blessing” to experience this as a girlfriend and not a fiancé or wife. You may only be dating now, but if you ever consider marring him you have to consider when you marry someone you also marry their family. You have to look at the situation and ask yourself if you can/ are willing to live with this for the rest of your life. And if your boyfriend is not checking up on you and making sure you feel safe and comfortable in an unfamiliar environment, then you have to ask yourself, are you okay with fending for yourself?

The fact that there were no finger foods while you wait for a late dinner is telling about the stress levels that this family may have in general. No, you don’t have to manage your sugar levels by yourself, you are a guest at a dinner party, who starves their guess and bombards them with weird political fodder? It feels as if they intentionally made things uncomfortable and your “boyfriend” either is clueless or just doesn’t care. Or worse of all, it’s normal for him and this is the kind of behavior to expect from him during your relationship.

“In-laws”, are a mirror to what you can expect in your own home structure with that person going forward.

You were right to leave the situation. If you were not being treated with respect and courtesy then why subject yourself to misery? If your boyfriend can’t see or understand that then maybe you should evaluate if you are willing to put in time and effort into a relationship with someone who won’t be willing to make an effort to meet your needs and see your self care efforts as “bratty”.

This experience does not sound like a little annoyance, it sounds like a red flag.

Has no one else picked up on your BF making sexist comments at your expense? Honestly, reading this through it sounds like you need to take some time to think coldly and rationally about your relationship and decide if it is a healthy one. It's perfectly possible to be in love with someone who is not doing you any favours, but it's also possible to choose better for yourself.

Thats what you get for having a saggy sack Santa.

My father in law is similar but luckily all of his children are sick of his shit. This year, we set a limit on how much we would take from him and left after two hours. Wouldn't have gone at all except there is a five year old niece involved and she was so excitrd to see the whole family. My own family lives in a different province, so that was it for our celebrations. Ordered Chinese food and had egg nog for the rest of the night.

I'm sorry your bf fell into trying to fit in. Hopefully that's all that it was and isn't something deeper. As it's still early days for you guys, I hope you're able to have a real conversation about it and let him know that you noticed and it hurt. He probably isn't thinking about it at all right now and needs to hear it. You definitely did not fuck up by having boundaries.

Thank you i will look into this.

Stupid idea start to finish

Don't get your feet measured at Sports Direct. Many years ago I worked at a shoe store (Stead and Simpsons... Remember them?) and the training was always terrible. From what I understand SD aren't any better.

Go to an independent running store. One which will also look at your gait as well as the actual size of your feet. A decent one will also video you and show you how you move.