Dude. You gave a viable option to leave an abusive situation. Most kids just leave without this information and end up dead. You gave her a survival chance.

Not a red flag, a giant red fireworks display that says "GTFO"

Your SO, be it boyfriend, girlfriend, fiancé, or spouse needs to have your back. I'd be appalled with myself if I let my family poke and prod my SO like that, and if I found out afterwards I'd be livid that I wasn't told earlier so I could chew my families ass off.

I'm a dude, and I'd have done the same as OP. I'm left leaning, and if my SO's family started picking me apart and my SO joined in, sorry, it's over. You're supposed to have each other's back, not... this...

You can't be friends with her, please realize that. You will ALWAYS want to be with her and that is not what friendship is about. Give up that thought. Just tell her, make the big bang happen either way and you can move on with your life.

So shoot your shot, it's the last one you get.

This is me and some of my best friends, basically.

My best friend from middle school's whole family are massive GOP fans, and he's more moderate but still leans a bit more to the right on a lot of things.

Me and him? We can discuss and debate, then have a beer and laugh at how we can get along better than professional politicians while watching a stupid movie or anime.

Another friend is similar, with mostly left leaning views but has a few things he feels strongly about that are right leaning. He tries to stay apolitical because he hates the country's politics, but every now and then we talk politely about things.

My ex was similar as well. She was super liberal, more so than even me(and I'm a diehard BernieBro), but her whole family was death before Dems. I did not get along well with her family, but neither did she.

Guess you've got an Onion ring now..

First week of class is usually just talking about "what we are going to study" so you won't be missing much. I tend to miss the first week as they're so boring. They basically just put the rubric into a powerpoint

I had a laproscopy for my hernia and was scared to touch myself for over a week. Before my checkup, I thought I'll just "check the pipes" and did the deed. Even though there were no complications, in hindsight, I probably should have waited longer.

The thing is, you can.

You can't choose what pops into your head, true, but you decide if you want to keep thinking about it and let it drag you down. You can choose to think about anything else you want, be it a game, a movie, having a drink with friends next week, or drawing something. Moving forward takes work, it's not instant, and you have to choose to do it.

Yep. She would have run away anyway. Now she has a chance at surviving.

You didn't fuck up. Your step-dad did by being an all-around narcissistic, manipulative piece of shit. I empathize with your mother because it can be very difficult to leave an abusive relationship, but at the end of the day you also have to think about your own safety and future. You shouldn't force yourself to live in an abusive environment because it's more convenient for everyone else.

Hopefully this will be the wake-up call your mother needs. Some people don't change and if he's like this now, think about how he might be 5-10 years down the line. Only a real toxic piece of shit would stop a mother from having a relationship from her own child. I know that moving on is never easy, but sometime being a parent means you have to make difficult sacrifices for the future of your children.

Also you never know. In a few years time she might meet the perfect soulmate. Life is too short to spend it with someone who doesn't respect you or your family.

How exactly do you not dwell on thoughts you can't control?

I never got as into the others. But I eternally crave the blueberry pomegranate Kickstart that they stopped producing.

In which country are gas stoves without automatic shutoff allowed? What the fuck.

Why’s it any different for kids?

My kids been having issues with his nose for a while so was just windering

You gave that kid the skills and confidence to flee when she may have felt her only option was to end it.

No FU here.

You didn't fuck up. You cant fuck up by being honest unless you're trying to hurt somebody.

Your mum could have followed up on it and contacted you/your dad, she could have left the guy. There's little fault here other than your stepdad who sounds like a PoS .

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Similar story with me and my mom.

I own a sex toy shop online, and 3D print my molds. My mom has, after 25 years, FINALLY taken an interest in what I do and starts asking me constantly what it is.

It's a furry sex toy. I'm a furry. I hadn't told her that yet.

She's a Baptist, deeply religious, and thinks anime is porn.

I tried to tell her repeatedly I just wanted privacy in my business, and to please respect that.

Nope. Constantly tries to see what I make, until one day I just drag a 10 pound hunk of silicone and slap it down on the kitchen table, tell her I'm a furry and people pay a lot of money for this, and that she can do what she wants with this information.

Her response? "I think you were right. I really didn't need to know this. But good luck?"

This has literally nothing to do with you so stop feeling bad. The only thing that knowledge can do is help keep her alive.

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I lived with my brother for a couple of years. His kitchen has a gas oven when I moved in. I lived there for two years, and it is the only house I have never cooked in. I flat refused to use a gas stove, for the exact reason you outlined in your post. So gladyou all came out of it ok.

I'm a religious person, and discussions on religion with atheists were some of the things that made me dig deeper and questions things more. Every time they posed a question I didn't have a good answer for, I read and studied until I did.

Sounds like she's ready to camp for a few days, not make a life of living in the woods or on the road.

There's a good chance she'll be back and be ok.

Completely agree but it seems OP believes she should also "face the music." There's no way this is going to be reported