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shadowspyryt t1_j1zdw1f wrote

You should feel guilty. For your perceived notion that someone who is harming themselves should "face the music." The situation calls for understanding, love and support. Maybe you need to reassess yourself and the situation. And it sounds like her parents should be doing the same thing if she felt the need to run away.

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Perkynips83 t1_j1zcaet wrote

You may have just preemptively saved this struggling childs life. Feel greatful if she makes it and works all this out on her own while she has time to get away. You may have also unlocked a new passion in her to be outdoors and do life a little differently than what the rest of the world expects out of us.

Ultimately if it doesn't work out for her it's still not your fault "for not doing more" or whatever other guilt you may face in this time. Her life issues weren't your fault, nor are you responsible for her response in how she attempted to escape from it. All you did was attempt to give her tools to make it easier on her if she finds herself in a situation that she needs those tools.

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Fireblade09 OP t1_j1zbu7c wrote

More developed cardiovascular systems is my guess. Adult tonsillectomies are notoriously painful. I got much stronger dose pain medicine for this than when I shattered my ankle

When I was a kid, most doctors figured that we would “grow into them.” God I wish so bad I had a time machine and could convince my parents to lop them off 18 years ago.

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Purplestarfire1 t1_j1zaqgg wrote

I wish I could say everything would work out for you two and you could end up together. I can say this, there are other women like her out there. No, they won't be her and no, they won't be the exact same, but they are similar in personality. I'm going through my own stuff right now, so I can say with experience, nothing lasts forever. Maybe you two will be single at the same time again and give it a go. Maybe you'll find another woman that you love just as much and she will love you just as much. Nobody knows what the future holds. Don't put your life on hold for the possibility of being with her. That may never happen.

Regardless of what she says when you meet, move on with life with or without her.

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dysphoric_amalgam t1_j1z9tym wrote

Here's my version.

I was born with flat feet. This is important to know because once upon I went water skiing when I was a teenager.

I walk like a duck with my feet pointed out, and can't really hold them straight. The error with water skiing was that I immediately did the splits my first time on the skis, and strained every muscle in my groin and inner thighs, because my feet point out like that.

Genius me decides when I get home to put Icy Hot on my thighs. Icy Hot doesn't really stay put.

After a few minutes I realized my error, and...

...well, the story ends with my mom barging into the bathroom, concerned, to see me doing the doggie wipe in the tub, screaming in agony from both the pain in my thighs and my burning McNuggets.

That tub couldn't fill fast enough.

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frostherz t1_j1z9dh2 wrote

God damn man. You've just made me realize how my owm fuckup could have turned out 25 years ago. I smoked some weed with my fellow roommate in hospital and had a good high with lots of laughter and noticeable increase in Blood pressure. Nothing happened. But now I know I was playing with fire that day.

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HamDiesel t1_j1z93k4 wrote

This is no misunderstanding. When I was 13-14 I had a similar experience. My step mom was a horrible person, on many levels. I was supposed to do the weekly switch as well, and I got to the point of finding any reason not to go to their house. Stay at friends, lie and stay at my mom's, whatever I could do.

I am nearly 38 years old. And this still affects me today.

The best thing you can do, is speak your feelings. Get it all out there. Parents are blind to a lot of what kids feel, because kids often have trouble expressing their true emotion and feelings.

Eventually, you will be more powerful than your step-dad.

Don't think, "oh no I ruined my mom's happiness". If he treats the woman's children he supposedly loves the way you say. It might be far worse for her. You telling her what happened, and how you feel might be what she needs to take the blinders off.

Be intelligent, strong, and don't be afraid to do what you need to.

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