Thank you for the update.

No fuck up mate

You gave her an out of what's probably a shitty situation and now it cannot be ignored by authorities

You're a great dude, even more so for how bad you felt and how much MORE effort it appears you put in than the parents to help this girl

Keep being awesome

I'm reading this in the bathroom and can't stop lmao.

If you're depressed drinking and cutting there are deeper issues then disrespect going on you should be open and honest with your mom and tell her everything. You need counseling from a good therapist and not one that will just goes "uh huh, yes, tell me what you think?" You need one that will help you give you the tools to move through the trauma and deal with it so you can accomplish your potential in life and believe you me trauma does hold you back.

In this situation, it was not helpful or appropriate for you to tell your friend to move on and find someone else to replace their loved one who passed away. Grief is a complex and personal experience, and it cannot be easily resolved by replacing the person who has been lost. It is also not fair to compare someone's loved ones to the person who has passed, as it can be hurtful and dismissive of their feelings.

To address this issue, it would be best for you to apologize sincerely for your hurtful words and try to understand your friend's perspective. It may also be helpful for them to seek out resources for supporting someone who is grieving, such as therapy or support groups, in order to better understand how to cope with their loss. Additionally, it may be helpful for you to take some time to reflect on your own communication style and try to find more effective ways of expressing your thoughts and feelings in the future.

might as well grabbed his phone to🤦🏿‍♂️

Whats her problem? She know you're lack toast and tall ants? She knew that when she married you. Good times and bad. Reclaim your spot in the bed or throw her butt out when she gains a pound/stone/kg, see how she likes it

You went and ensured their safety, why are you getting even a portion of the blame? Nothing wrong here as far as I can see.

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Yeah if this was real porn he would have fucked them both!

Yep some things are hard, you can do it tho

I still reckon you did nothing wrong here. That kid ran off because of the parents, not you. They are just trying to blame someone else for their own FU.

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Sure, my point was that it’s unlikely the cashier would be unable to successfully claim self-defense here either, since they both pursued the potential thief and made physical contact first based on the doctrine of extended personhood (when she grabbed the bottle), AND the thief could potentially turn the defense around on them and claim self-defense themselves

it’s so hard to have these convos bc i know he won’t take it well 😭

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Depends on jurisdiction. Hitting someone who’s unarmed with a deadly weapon (which a 1.5l glass bottle definitely can be) will void any self defence argument in a lot of places.

I couldn't get past "I'm a notorious almost first row basketball fan". What even is this phrase? And why does it need said? Is this question answered later and should I read more?

I'm just imagining right now that you're this guy that's always been stuck in the second row of your favorite basketball team because the owner hates you and doesn't want the camera to pick up your face. So that's where you get notorious. Because everyone at the game is looking at you and thinking "gosh he's a notorious almost first row fan that the owner can't stand"

The part where I made fun of his father isn't included in the post but what I actually said was that he wasn't anything special, which were his words not mine - and he does currently have a therapist. Thank you for your reply!

Quick fix: light a match (srsly, it works)

Sounds like she knew you would be the easy button to boost her confidence in a time when she feels down due to a breakup. What you said is a totally normal response.

Not saying this is what happened, but consider this is possibly not even a friend if she's aware of your attraction and strings you along just to boost her ego when it's convenient to her.

And where's the part when you "made fun" of his father? I mean it is true, his father will never come back. Maybe you can keep your distance from him for a while? Dealing with mentally ill people can be a neverending task and your relationship with them may never work out, what you can do for him is to find some resources for him to get a therapist.

Congrats on being so dumb you almost killed people using a stove I learned how to operate when I was 7 I guess

Tell him you think he is going too fast for you. If he continues tell him its not going to work out. On another note its not a good idea to ghost everyone you don’t see a relationship with. Start telling these people the truth.