Did everyone clap?

Honestly your wife is a female dog. I wouldn't be happy to smell it but I would be worried about my husband!!

Any updates ? 👀

What happened in your upbringing that made you think this is an okay way to behave?

You did not fu. You saved her from whatever the reason she was self harming. She got away. She’s safe now because of you.

CPS are going to take her seriously and assess her living conditions. You taught her valuable life skills she’ll never forget. You kept her alive. Chances are she was going to run away or try self harming again before she even met you. There are many people to blame but you are not one of them.

If a woman would open herself here and told she felt the pressure of being inexperienced and would be worried her boyfriend to find out she IS experienced, would you be equally mad at someone pointing out expectations towards women and tell one that this isn't the place to talk about women's issues?

Nah, man. My FIL brought a screwdriver to our house and tightened the screws on all our doorknobs. It was mostly fine, except he tightened the screws so much on the sliding glass door latches that the door was hard to open/close. I thought it was a weird thing to do to someone else's house, but it was just the beginning...

So, as a feminist, it's your right and duty to supervise in which conversations men's issues are brought up and police that? Eventhough it's a man talking about them, relating them and therefore maybe understanding them?

Because you're a feminist and not an eqalitarian, I find it easy to understand that you fail to see the bigger picture. Because this is about a man, you'd only see the action he did, and refuse to see what made him do it. Why this individual have insecurities men can relate into?

I didn't push any agenda, people just got triggered from it, which isn't entirely wrong because we've had some rational dialogues too, but hatred is always too much and that's my failure since the original comment was too provocative. That's not pushing men are oppressed agenda that's simply trying to understand the situation from man's point of view.

I have no emotions involved in this conversation.

Bro you’re a hero. You saved her. Even if you consider it a fuck up, you fucking owned it, did the right thing and made sure she got the help she needed

Play the game. Hang with other girls to see if she gets jealous. If she doesn’t bat an eyelid, then you truly are friendzoned

Glad to hear it. Hope you gave her an evaluation of her performance, seeing as she was relying on stuff you taught her.

This isn't the weird subreddit for your weird sex fantasies 🙄

OP putting expectation upon himself on his own accord as a result of his own insecurity is simply not at all in line with what I’d consider an example of “unrealistic societal expectations of men”. I think it’s very important that men’s issue and mental health are spoken about, though often it is brought up in inappropriate places in order to distract from the actual issue and I felt that this was one of those circumstances.

Also I’m not sure how from this brief interaction you’ve gathered that I’m a misandrist, I am a feminist and I believe in equal rights for men and woman and when people like yourself jump into conversations that feel irrelevant to that topic, I perceive it as you trying to push some “men are oppressed” agenda. As for the sobbing comment, I just think it’d be more appropriate discussing topics like somewhere other than in the comments of a post where OP literally admits that his actions were a result of his own stupidity. It’d be best we end this discussion here as it seems my sobbing comment got you quite emotional there.

You didn't fuck up here mate, if anyone is to blame, it's the parents.... They just don't like accepting the blame!

Thanks for the update, for going out to look and for taking a great team with you for the best success in bringing her back as safe as possible. She came back because she knew and trusted you. Thank you for being a quality human

Wow that's very trashy of him. It sounds like he is looking for for an out from the marriage? He shouldn't have lead you on if he has problems with your your severe problems being alone or health problems or whatever is his reasoning.

As an ex-RN, and past Mum of troubled teens, you have done nothing wrong.

If anything, you should be proud of yourself for teaching skills that lead to resilience and survival.

If you had not given this teen the confidence to survive in the wild, they may have ended up on the streets, which has a much higher chance of an unhappy ending.
You should be giving yourself a pat on the back, not castigating yourself. You are doing a good thing, continue to do it. You are giving these kids a valuable skillset, and building their self-confidence.

The mother is panicking and looking for a scapegoat, because it can't possibly be her parenting that is to blame here. The fact that her daughter ran away instead of talking to her speaks volumes. You are part of the solution, not the problem.

Isn't op a man? And he thought there are expectations towards his performance? What IS more relevant place to talk about men's issues? Why it's so important to you that men's issues are NOT brought up in front of your eyes?

Sobbing reference is tasteless.. It's like screaming your misandry. Let me guess, it's a metaphora of fragile masculinity?

"Go sob about men somewhere else" is exactly the emotional side I've been talking about. You just had to choose the insulting, toxic route. Sensitive topic I'd say.

Isn't op a man? And he thought there are expectations towards his performance? What IS more relevant place to talk about men's issues? Why it's so important to you that men's issues are NOT brought up in front of your eyes?

Sobbing reference is tasteless.. It's like screaming your misandry. Let me guess, it's a metaphora of fragile masculinity?

"Go sob about men somewhere else" is exactly the emotional side I've been talking about. You just had to choose the insulting, toxic route. Sensitive topic I'd say.

Moved into a house. Roomie calls me downstairs because she wanted to go out the basement door because she cant get it open.

I give it a yank. Nope, its closed. But the way it moves -

I wordlessly reach over and slide a little gate lock open thats clearly visible just above the knob and open the door. Total time spent: 5 seconds.

She facepalmed so hard, all i could say was "man, i wish all my problems were that easy to solve."

im so sorry to laugh this hard at your pain..but it was written so funny

Enjoyable read af your expense thank you

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This should be top comment. Abusers always out themselves, even if it's only something small, like blaming someone else for your kid running from home.

Decades ago I went to Spanish camp. One of the American female counselors accused one of the male South American counselors of being a Latin Lover, only interested in flirting.

He vociferously denied that, stating that he was not a "cabrón" whose only aim was to chase women, he had come to the States to study.

My brain went "cabrón" = "stud/flirt".

Went back to school and the guy in front of me had heard I met a cute guy at camp and started giving me flack. Knowing of my classmate's reputation as a ladies' man, I responded by saying, "Ay, Miguel, qué cabrón eres!"

Spanish teacher was in front of us. Did an actual spit-take and yelled at me.

And that is the story of how I learned that words could have different meanings in different countries and that I had learned my first swear word in Spanish.

BTW, 'Miguel' was not a very bright boy and never did figure out what I had called him because the classroom dictionary had it listed as "buck".