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211115ws t1_j23u2xq wrote

I'm wondering if you had issues with mental health prior to this episode that he has found challenging to cope with. I can't imagine a decent, empathetic, and intelligent person walking out on a relationship over an isolated suicide attempt.

If he has, he is an arsehole and you are well rid of him. If not, consider what issues there may have been in the relationship before. Peace and love to you.

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DesignerBag96 t1_j23pvp8 wrote

I’m so sorry that you’re having to go through this. But right now you need to focus on you. You need to figure out why you had a psychosis episode and what brought you to that point and get help. You need to work on you.

I hate to say this (because you are hurting so bad right now) but your boyfriend is allowed to make his own choices and live the life he wants. If in the future IF he would like to talk to you that’s on his accord but what you did, how you acted, I don’t think you understand the entirety of it and what it did to him.

People are allowed to not want to be around people who have psychotic episodes or breakdown. Even though something medically could explain it, there are a lot of people when put in those situations are like ā€œnope! Peace out!ā€

Even though you had a great relationship, your life is what needs focus now. Not repairing something irreparable. This is your growth period now. Focus on you, therapy, medication etc to get you back to a good place. Allow yourself to grieve the end of the relationship. Sometimes they just end without any explanation and ghost you. In this case it ended because a HUGE traumatic situation happened. Just walk away and work on you.

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-Chris-V- t1_j23p30a wrote

No, but people who are dating and suffer extreme mental illness are often not emotionally or mentally available to be in a relationship. And we're not talking about garden variety depression, we're talking about a suicide attempt. It's not fair to expect the S/O in a situation like this to stick around walking on egg shells, unable to speak up or disagree for fear their partner might try again.

If these people do not have long term obligations to each other, they have no long term obligation to each other.

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AdAdventurous5657 t1_j23okjs wrote

Surviving infidelity sub will offer good advice, but basically YOU need to work out what you want. If you want to try to salvage your relationship then he needs to go nc with her and change jobs as a min and you both need ic and mc to work this out. He needs to give you a full time line of everything. He aslo needs to give you full access to everythjng. If not go see a lawyer and see what divorce looks like

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Confidenceisbetter t1_j23oebn wrote

Depression sucks. I’ve had it i know. But you need to recognize it’s not just hard for you and it’s not fair to expect other people to carry your burden with you. Nobody owes it to you to compromise their own mental health so you don’t feel worse or get hurt. If you have people who stick with you through such a difficult time, great! But those who can’t or don’t want to handle it are not bad people for looking after their own mental health first.

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