This belongs in r/FantasyRevenge ?

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You obviously still had feelings for your ex if you could still comfort her like that. You need to realize that your current girlfriend didn't mean as much to you if you were willing to spend anytime on your ex.

A fanfic from an amateur writer

Sounds like a trump supporter

I miss people like you around here so much, and i fully agree. OP if it's meant to be it'll be.

Tf did I just read?

But honestly, would you wear a cum crochet?

He'll somehow be put back into your orbit if its meant to be mama.

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He didn’t react strongly. He was actually respectful and I could feel him pulling back after I made that comment. He just got quiet and kept a distance afterwards. I didn’t mean to turn him down at all but I only later realised what I said came across as it and probably made him think I wasn’t interested. Smh why am I like this

I mean... She had regrets, so now there's no rugrats

What a stand up guy

I'm not saying it's impossible, it does happen of course. But chances are that trust can never be fully repaired. Even if she gets to a point where she wants to try and wants to trust you. Odds are she won't fully.

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You don’t have to tell them about people involved. Just about yourself and what you are going to. For all anyone knows you could be hanging out with other group of people as well.

I also used to abuse alcohol in my teen years. The only reason I stopped is because I lost all of my friends which was a blessing in disguise - yes that was the darkest moment of my life but I got through that. Alcohol doesn’t help anything, it just causes more problems - even now at 24 I drink on weekends but I know I should cut it off as it doesn’t even bring me that much fun as it used to.

How to change things - start by not looking for excuses and reasons not to but by finding solutions. Like “I have substance abuse problems- let’s start by lowering the intake. Instead of doing that I’m gonna go on a walk, or do a hobby (for me super helpful was teaching myself how to play the guitar)”. Start small. Also I’d advise cutting the friends off. Trying to join after school activities to find friends with likeminded interests.

As for self harming - I used to do that to try and replace emotional pain with physical (having emotion dysregulation/hyperemotionality didn’t help but I only learned I have that a year ago). What helped me was finding a meaningful person to me who I didn’t want to let down so I stopped it for most part. I’ve attempted unaliving myself. Ended up spending a month in mental institution. Couple months later tried to do that with antidepressants had the worst time - so bad I decided to stop using them in general. You know what I discovered? That even if I felt good I wanted to make myself feel bad. That I had this self sabotaging tendency. So I’ve stopped that. You have to learn to love yourself. Start by looking in the mirror and telling yourself compliments and how amazing you are. Even if you don’t believe it. You’ll say it until one day you’ll be like “you know what? I do like me. I’m amazing. Fuck the world - I’ll be the best version of myself for myself”. You got this.

Sorry for the wall of text but I hope that you read it and hopefully this will somehow help. I hated when people told me this but - you’re still young and have years to live. It does get better. You and only you can make it better. Believe in yourself.

Give what you don't want to those experiencing homelessness and if she asks later tell how grateful you were and it was a lot so you shared the love. And you're family is doing well.

Take that shit to the grave, she didn't need to know.

Trust in your doctor. Try your best to clear your mind.

The second you even decided to go to your ex, with whatever intention, you messed up mate.

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Honestly the person you cheated on deserves to move on and find someone else.

I have a saying: Until you put the past behind you, it will always be an obstacle in front of you.

That being said, if you spend all of your time looking at what's already happened, you miss the opportunities that are right in front of you simply because you're looking in the wrong direction. Chalk it up to experience, remember that feeling of regret, and use it as fuel to push past your anxiety and not make the same mistake again. Like, next time focus your anxiety on "what if I don't talk to that guy, and I miss my chance?" Use your anxiety like a superpower, kind of like the hulk directs his anger towards the bad guys. It doesn't always work, you'll still have bad days, but focus on what will happen if you DON'T do that thing that you're having anxiety about doing. Use it to talk yourself INTO doing it, instead of OUT of doing it if that makes sense. Now I realize this doesn't help with your current situation, but In the future it may help you like it has me.

Her reason for giving tells you that there are no strings attached. You can write her a letter expressing your gratitude for thinking of you. And if there is too much for your family, share with others who nave need. You could even write her about that, letting her know that her gift helped others she doesn’t even know.

I have a feeling she would appreciate that even more than being in a position to help you after she lived through being unable to help others. She doesn’t need to know you didn’t need it.