Is somebody not getting enough attention from mummy at home?

You sir, are going places

How can someone accidentally cheat on their girlfriend with their ex 😭

Ah how very moral, cheat and don't tell, all good then.

I have a sky, firestick & TV remote apps all on my phone for when my son puts them somewhere random instead of where they belong!

Thank you for your comment. I have always been the type to bottle up my emotions and not let anyone in. It's not good at all and I'm aware. My whole family is this way. I get it from my dad. We never talk about emotions or important things. Not sure why.

I will say I've gotten much better about it since starting therapy two years ago. I let people in more, but I have to really trust. This whole Taylor thing has been a lot and so overwhelming. That's why I reached out here. But I also took your advice and opened up to one of my friends and my brother. It was nice having someone close to talk to. So thank you. I need to be better about confiding in others in the future and not holding it all in.

Anyone else waiting for Ashton Kutcher to show up and tell us we got punk’d?

I understand where you're coming from with this. You're right about the romanticizing. Like another comment said, I never actually had a relationship with her. It could easily not work like I imagine. I more just meant it in that I've known this girl for 8 years now. I took her for granted. I know our dynamic has always been amazing and I never really took notice of it.

And I guess I worded poorly about the checklist because I don't want it to sound like she's a thing for me to have. I don't view her that way at all. Or maybe my view is skewed to where I don't see it. But I more meant that through therapy, I felt like I had the realization of what I truly want in life. I was ready. And the epiphany hit that it was in front of me the whole time. At least that's how it felt.

Also, the "just missed it" was more in reference to that epiphany coming a month into her starting this relationship with her now fiance. More in me wishing I realized sooner. I am aware she is her own person and wasn't just there waiting for me. I thought I even mentioned that in my post but I don't think it came through clearly. I have no blame toward her in any of this. She's living her life and finding love as she should. She owes me nothing.

But I still see points in what you're saying and, trust me, Taylor will be the subject of many therapy sessions to come while I sort things out.

You shouldn't do anything you don't want to. Kinda sucks for the guy because that promise could be misconstrued as you stringing him along instead of what it really was, you trying to let him down easy.

IMO, skipp the middleman, talk to the guy and explain how uncomfortable you feel, and that you were just trying not to be rude. If he has a bit of decency, I bet he would understand and tell the mutual friend the date was OK, but you guys were not as compatible as originally thought.

Or take the confrontational route and tell them both to stop pressing you into dating when you really don't feel drawn to doing it.

Your rights and emotional safety are important, and due to your trauma, it is best not to rush into things, but work them preferably with a therapist, until you feel better.

Do you know how to get a hold of him tho?

>I'm not saying you're a terrible person for doing it

Eh, I'll say that. This wasn't just a slip up, it was a deliberate runway walk down the street to fucking their current partner over.

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This is cute. I’m in Tim’s team!

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This sounds like the opposite of a fuck up. A fuck down? IDK. GOOD FOR YOU

Wow, you managed to garner some sympathy in the first half, but really ended that story looking like an asshole. You should’ve started with “I’m in a committed relationship but decided to go comfort my ex” and the foreshadowing would’ve written the rest.

Exactly my thoughts.

Bipolar?

You were just thinking with your little brain honestly... Hope they don't forgive you

Yes you are actually stupid for doing that

You should have learned a lesson and kept your mouth shut, providing there was no other reason she would have found out. You screwed up, but you learned a valuable lesson. Confessing made your behavior her problem; now she has to deal with this. I know it sounds sketchy, but if you truly learned your lesson, you should have not hurt her with the truth, kept your mouth shut, and let it fade.

Second chances exist. Take the time to work on you, and it’ll be intuitive when/if you run across the right one. I’ve beaten myself up about a million “ones that got away,” but I always met someone else. Let yourself feel bad for a while, and then build on what you’ve learned. 👍

No regrest after sex

She's not, but my horrible sister is a LiBeRtArIaN.

Get over it. Now that you have identified mistake, u promise urself to not do it again when the opportunity comes.. We all make mistakes!