Lmao. Don't stress it, dudes fumble the bag all the time, but yikes 😅

Grindr is hell

Damn, I'm a guy and all I hear about Grindr is how much gay people meet up just to bang.

Sorry for your bad experience but I don't really know what you expected from meeting someone off of Grindr; it's a hookup app. The guy you met was probably expecting to get laid not develop a relationship (although maybe that might happen in the future) and would have almost certainly thought you were looking for the same.

Probably try Tinder if that's what you're after or make sure your profile explicitly states that you want to take things slow and that going back to a guys place the first time you meet isn't what you're looking for. This will eliminate any misconception that you're using that app in particular in a way that 99.96% of its users do.

A few things -

1. I weigh well over 300lbs, have been in relationships since... uhhh forever and just married the man of my dreams.
2. The man of my dreams had chronic acne and has acne scars and is still fucking gorgeous, like model gorgeous.

You need to stop listening to the voice in your head that is being a dick to you and telling you there is no hope. This voice is wrong, it is a jerk, it is not seeing the whole picture. Your skin will heal if you leave it alone, your teeth can be fixed, your kindeys and arteries are probably not that bad at 20, you're going to be fine.

All of this stuff about the future - honestly, we don't know what will happen. You could win the lottery tomorrow, you could go viral and make a million dollars. You need to navigate yourself away from this catastrophic thinking and thinking you've ruined your life.

Yes, you have obstacles, but all of them can be over come with time and effort, and many of them are not the obstacles that you are making them out to be.

Don't give up, love your pets, love yourself, go to the gym, work hard at your good job. Build a life you love, things will come in time.

(Also maybe get a happy light or something, this time of year is really rough with the limited sunshine and it can make our brains be big jerks.)

I will need more data to verify the science.

Let me preface when I say this, this is easier said than done. It’s all up to you to change. You need to put in the hard work. You need to be hitting the gym and focusing that nervous energy into something healthy. Maybe a spin bike at home? Start picking and then you owe 5 minutes on the bike. Like I said this is WAY easier said than done. I’m overweight myself but I’ve accepted that this is who I am. You’re still young enough to change. You’re the captain of the ship. Steer it the way you want your life to go.

>The odds are against it turning out good.

I mean, statistically that literally isn't true. Thousands of people use these apps to hook up everyday and the amount of times it goes wrong is a very small percentage. I've used Grindr dozens of times and parted ways with the guys without any conflict at all.

Make up remover does wonders I promise.

I met my wife on Tinder, it was a bit awkward when we both got back home that evening.

Wasn’t meant to be. Timing is everything and anxiety can be our gut just telling us the timing isn’t right. Give yourself grace and time. I think you did the right thing.

I did this when I was 26. I waved someone in on the beltway in DC and smiled. He smiled back and then stayed in front of me motioning for me to pull Over and doing the please I’m begging you motion with his hands. I didn’t do it. Why? Because I didn’t have any self confidence in my looks and I thought, what if he gets close up and regrets it? Now I realized how cute that 26 YO girl was and how I should have loved myself. I’ve regretted it on and off for…wait for it…30 years! I’m 56 now- I’ve had a life, marriage, career, kids, but then tragedy hit my life, my husband had issues that I never knew about and he passed away. I fantasize about the guy who ‘got away’ - it’s fun and perfect in my mind. But would it have been? No because nothing ever is. But in my mind it always could have been. All this to say that’s what you’re regretting, the what could have been. So remember this feeling so that next time you take the chance. You’re wonderful today, remember that ❤️

True, just wait until you sleep walk into a doctor's office.

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I guess TIFU by offending someone on reddit.

The only part of this that’s legit is OP being a schizo

Because everything you wrote reads as passive aggressive and the general sentiment of your comments are really bad advice for a workplace regardless of it they likely smoke pot or not.

A simple "Yeah, I fucked up" is a lot better than pretty much anything else in a situation like OPs or for most workplaces in general. Substitute that with whatever language is appropriate for your workplace.

Taking ownership of your mistakes is just the easiest way to diffuse most workplace fuck ups.

I don't know. It helps at times, like my phone's keyboard's autocomplete feature helped me write this post by giving me a therapy session tonight.

"my partner was devastated and heartbroken. They couldn't believe that I had betrayed them like that and they didn't know if they could ever trust me again."

THEY ???? 🤔🤔🤔🤔

Check the bathroom for a hidden camera

What the Fuck

Helluva story. Do you think you'll ever stop trippin?

Thank you so much for replying and sharing your story. I’m sorry about your diagnosis. I’m really hoping it’ll be a lifelong condition that I can easily treat at least

Yep. My fave.

Where i live they start at 3 if they turn 4 in their first year