There are lots of prescription options for ADHD before adderall, if you’re worried about adderall specially. But whether it’s ADHD or something else, you need to talk to a psychiatrist if it’s impacting your safety and the safety of others.

Having side effects is a better alternative than killing someone and going to jail

Fuck the guilt shit, get help before you actually kill someone.

Thanks for burying me in guilt. I take it seriously.

You’re going to kill someone if you don’t take this seriously.

Thanks a lot for the encouragement man. I'm sure it's just what I needed to drive more safely and hopefully with no accidents (at fault) in my immediate future

OP, driver improvement courses are better than you think. I've even on a couple of speed awareness courses (both times due to lapses in concentration) in my time and each time I found them very informative and helpful.

Put it this way, if your brain issues are causing you to get into accidents, you should either get help to prevent accidents or not drive. You're a danger behind the wheel.

Its not my phone. But I do get distracted daily. I have undiagnosed add, so even when I'm looking directly into the road, I find my brain is wondering away. I am trying any and all options to correct my brain and behavior behind the wheel. Not sure whether to pursue adderall or something like it yet. Too nervous about side effects.

Sounds like you drive too close to other cars and/or probably always distracted. Either slow down or put the phone down. You're going to kill someone one day.

I enjoy being with her, I do find it easy, but the thing is early on in the relationship I never mentioned any of these issues and I guess she jokes about them because I started mentioning them when she got into contact with her childhood friend again. The only reason why I told her was because I wanted her to know that I felt safe telling her, she knows a lot about my past now, and she knows when too much is too much. Though usually ends up with her getting upset cause she thinks I don't fully trust her due to my insecurities. We both put in the effort and we always joke around with each other, usually avoiding topics that we can't handle, but she's started joking about this kind of stuff when I told her I was ok with it due to finally getting over my insecurities. She doesn't know they have returned in the past month

the events that occurred with the childhood friend saying he was her boyfriend was because we were on a break and she wanted someone to play the role to feel safe at school (we don't attend the same ones) and because I was bringing it up she automatically went to him for help and it happened, he didn't know we were dating again.

That isn't even really acknowledging your insecurity. If anything that is using them against you for your own entertainment

This is hard to hear at that age, but I wish someone had asked me this. Are you sure you really want to be with her? And none of the easy "I love her" excuse. My opinion, genuinely sit down by yourself and reflect on how she makes you feel. Do you find it easy to be around her? Who is putting the work in to make the relationship succeed? Is it worth it mentally and emotionally to be with her?

Oh god…

I will, thank you

Tell your partner first. And good luck, though I think you'll be fine

I hope this works, I really want them to stop these kinds of things

Just tell your gf. "sorry, but my ex cheated on me, so it's hard for me to joke about"

I have once, didn't go well, but I might try again, I just don't want to cause the same as a previous incident

My girlfriend acknowledges them, last time I brought it up cause of something she and childhood friend were doing she brought him into it and he said he was her boyfriend and I just remember crying for the weekend lol

Honestly, just tell her about it. And stop joking around about it. I personally don't find "cheating humour" funny.

Yo… that shit sucks, I have the same sorta insecurities and my gf actually takes them seriously.

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Crazy to think this stuff still happens. Where I live I can literally just openly smoke weed in front of the police and would never get told anything.

At most you can get a ticket but it’s pretty much not enforced.

Sorry that happened to you OP

The whole concept of ‘the ick’ is ridiculous.

>me (25 M) and my girlfriend (22 F)

I think you mean (15 M) and (12 F).