I know it hurts, and I’m sorry for that, but it is true that they aren’t your friends, but being teenagers they don’t know how to let you know and you don’t know how to see it. I truly don’t mean to be patronising, I’ve been there so many times, and in fact it’s only now in my 40s that I’ve realised that the handful of friends I have are really all that matter. They are reliable and the friendship is mutual. But I do remember that pain, that rejection, so I want you to try to believe in yourself and that you will find your people. At 17 I imagine you will have a change coming up, a new school or college? The perfect opportunity to meet new people. And when you do just relax and see what develops. This experience will help you see the signs - for example if you ask them out a few times and it never happens, step back and see if they do. And if they don’t that’s ok, they can still be acquaintances! You can develop as an individual, find things you enjoy doing and take classes in them. You are very young and you have plenty of time to find people who make you feel good. Best wishes

Dropping people who don’t care about you from your life isn’t a fu. There are a lot of people who will tag along with someone they don’t really like just because they’ve got nothing better to do. But the moment there is they’re gone. Those people don’t belong in your life. Find people who genuinely like you for you and want to spend time with you.

Hot take, it shows through the desperation that you appear to be clingy. Friends are friends, they are not like your lovers or something. It is good that you are open to clear communication about your feelings and everything, but you should save it for people who will care. Realise that some friends you keep a distance with, and other friends you are really close with. It's something you have to come to terms as you get to know them, sometimes that's just the way things are. Maybe you don't vibe the same or don't have much in common, that's okay. Like someone else said, don't force it.

Ah lol sorry but English is like my 2nd language. But yeah a class like that sounds pretty good

By night class I meant a class in the evening, y'know, like between 7-8pm. Before bedtime but after work. Chess sounds like a good start though.

TIFU: even harder, thanks for all the comments while I was at school. But now I found out she’s started dating one of the guys who tried to set me up with her. I really appreciate all the nice comments and advice you’ve all given but it definitely won’t work out now.

I can't find a night class since I'd actually like to sleep, but I want to start playing chess in a school, sooo

If there is one thing I learned as I got older that has saved me a lot of anguish, it is that I can’t make anyone like me. Judge people how they treat you - in this case these people are not your friends. Nothing you say or do will change that. Cut your losses and focus on people with whom you have interests in common.

If you don't take a stand, you'll be a doormat forever. Learn to do it while you're with these guys do you know how it's done before it's a romantic relationship. Otherwise you'll end up married to someone who makes your life miserable and you'll have no way out

Well, except for the part where they said it could just be the other people not being the right kind of people.

You need to find new friends. these guys suck. Can you find a hobby or night class where you might meet new people?

I’m so sorry this happened but those aren’t true friends:(

Well actually I already do all those things, but in my school there is no one who shares my interests

I'll try, and thank you for your words

"If you're not you, you may get more friends"

Top notch advice here bub.

All you're saying here is that op is not good enough, and that is a shit take.

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“Hey Crush, my ‘friends’ have been taunting me for a while by trying to get every pretty girl they meet to ask for my number. I’m not gay, I was untrusting after their constant BS. If you’d still like my number, here it is… because I do want to get to know you better.”

There’s no FU here. You aren’t really friends. And that’s ok. You learned that, so it’s time to move on. Try to spend your time with people that want to spend theirs with you. Chasing people you think you should hang out with will not lead to anything good.

Shit, I say go old school and write this on a note and hand it to her and walk away. "I thought my friends were just trying to prank me last time. But if you want my number, it's xxx-xxxx."

Then, if you get a message from her, cool. If you don't, cool. At least you didn't have to hear no in person like she did.

OP, let me fix this for you:

" So basically I (17m) told two persons WHOM I THOUGHT WERE friends (17m and 17f) "

They were not. Rest is simply a consequence.

Speaking as someone with a almost-but-not-quite similar story, I regret not saying something to this day 20 years later.

Write down your number, and tell her straight up, "The other week, I assumed my friend had put you up to it and had a knee jerk reaction, but if you’re actually interested here’s my number".
Minimal interaction for minimal anxiety, you can even walk away and see what she does after - if she messages you you’ll get her number then, so you don’t even need to ask for it.

If she refuses, that might be embarrassing in the short term but you’ll forget about it soon. But regrets can last much much longer.

This is good advice.

That's something you can work on. Develop or broaden your interests/hobbies/schooling etc, anything you love to talk about, then find people who want to share that with you.

Also, things like smiling and eye contact. Always asking questions and taking a keen interest in other people. Being a good listener. There's lots of things you can work on if you think people don't want to spend time with you.

But, it could easily be a case of the wrong people. Not everyone gets on. And even among those who do, not everyone is a good fit friend wise. There are many people that I like as people but we would never work as friends.

Good luck op.

Thanks. I will be in need of luck soon.

So, find a way to fix it. Anyone can understand "your question took me by surprise, I would like to exchange numbers." You could even have your number written out on a paper, with a second paper to write her number. It's not too late to fix this.

Think how rejected she feels!