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TrickyTimeBomb t1_j44tjvb wrote

Reply to comment by melancholicangie in TIFU by asking my boyfriend about his nightmare... by [deleted]

I didn't feel off, I was honestly more worried about what it meant with our relationship -- If anything. I'm definitely not concerned for my own safety w him or anything like that, my bad for making it seem that way in the post. He would never lay a hand on me, he's as gentle as can be. Your insight is very accurate and I appreciate it.

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Van_GOOOOOUGH t1_j44nni8 wrote

Reply to TIFU by asking my boyfriend about his nightmare... by [deleted]

Last night I dreamt someone was laying on a table in an ice cream shop and I was trying to murder her by wrapping her to the table with Saran wrap. Then someone approached and I tried to explain "it's not what it looks like," I'm an innocent sweet girl and there's a logical explanation for this 😆

Next dream I'd just had sex with someone I knew IRL who I'd NEVER want to have sex with, but in the dream we were both happy & satisfied, then he said "Here take this," tried to hand me money and I felt insulted, "I'm not a prostitute! I did that because I WANTED to..."

Anyway dreams are weird, they rarely make sense at face value, and rarely should be interpreted literally.

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SilverPurse OP t1_j44kfh4 wrote

Reply to comment by JohannSuende in TIFU by thinking I was funny in front of around 11 members of my biological family, that I was meeting for the very first time. by SilverPurse

lol

We stayed in touch for special occasions but as I never grew up with them and as they never make the effect to evolved themselves in my life we just drifted apart. No lost at all for me in all honesty. My mums side of the family is big and wonderful enough on their own :-)

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PassengerNumerous607 t1_j44k5df wrote

Reply to TIFU By locking myself out of the house by Gingyfiz

I keep my window unlocked for this reason! However, they’re very narrow and high up so I always look like the most awkward burglar in the world as I throw myself haphazardly into my house. I’m pretty sure my neighbors know by now im not a home intruder, just a forgetful tenant

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HardKnokLyfe t1_j44gpt3 wrote

Reply to comment by mrmatt46 in TIFU By locking myself out of the house by Gingyfiz

I have a daily pat down of myself before I leave. Wallet, phone, keys. Keysphonewallet. I don’t close my door unless I have those three things. Wanna know how many times I have to go back inside because I forgot something? At least twice a week. Sometimes everyday. And 9/10 it’s my keys.

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melancholicangie t1_j44fg94 wrote

Reply to TIFU by asking my boyfriend about his nightmare... by [deleted]

So he’s probably got some unresolved feelings about inadequacy, you said he’s under a lot of stress. Dreams and nightmares are often manifestations of unresolved images or thoughts. Assigning a lot of meaning to a dream is pretty risky- especially if it isn’t your own dream.

Granted, the nightmares’ content was disturbing. I’m surprised he shared those details with you, it would seem to indicate he trusts you and found the nightmare bizarre and disturbing enough to discuss it.

There would be valid reasons for concern in my estimation, if his attitude in relaying the dream or how he treated you during your conversation was “off”. Did you come away from the conversation feeling like it was a threat? Did he enjoy your reaction to the nightmare? If he seemed to be blaming you for having this dream in any way, I would see this incident as a red flag.

If he simply described this nightmare to you, and was clearly upset by the content and seeking solace from you as a partner- I would rise above the obvious jarring effect and try to console him. Perhaps even make a small joke to lighten the mood, but if he was distraught by this dream, it seems likely he is looking for comfort from you after a traumatic dream and difficult time in his life.

Keep your eyes open, but don’t assume the worst of him unless he’s giving you more reason than the content of a nightmare.

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