You're pretty irresponsible, and kinda...stupid. like we all make mistakes man, but you need to learn from this. Weed is probably the only drug worth doing recreationally (responsibly ofc)

I made the mistake of abusing marijuana to the point it damaged my relationship, but I learned and bettered. I also abused alcohol in the same way. I'm only saying this so you know Im talking from some experience. I was stupid and irresponsible as well.

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OMG - stop the wining and take some responsibility for your life and actions, OP!

I've taken plenty of MDMA and you don't black out. You might get caught up in your own machinations like the beginning, but by the time you came down and offered it to a vulnerable 19 year old inside of your house you knew exactly what you were doing and you had millions of chances to change the outcome. This is gross and creepy.

Dude you are the worstttt....your poor wife deserves way better and you should feel really bad about what you've done. BECAUSE chances are what you clearly don't regret is going to break her heart the moment she finds out

I accidentally the whole bottle!

You need to tell your wife and get std testing now and 6 months from now. You could have easily gotten aids or hep. Really dumb.

So you’re saying you’re okay with cheating as long as it’s a cis woman?

You're a straight up gargantuan piece of shit. The best part is you trying to be a victim in the comments.

Whatever you do, don't shower yet. You may erase evidence.

Taking Molly while home sounds like you've never done Molly

You don’t black out from MDMA. This story is BS.

Invest in a champagne stopper. It clamps down on the ridge at the top. Works great.

You are a certified piece of shit. Hope you don't give your wife an STD.

Have your wife take Molly and invite your new transgender gf over at the same time. That'll end well

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That doesn't sound like a TIFU to me, that sounds like you got spiked and raped. Keep the jacket in a plastic bag somewhere safe as there may be evidence in or on it. Check in with your friends and ask them to go through your night step by step - who they saw you with, where you went, the state you were in, who you left with etc. One person might not have all the answers but you should be able to piece it together from different chunks.

Your phone may also have your location history to show where you were and at what time - for Android you can find it in Google Maps, for iPhone I'm not sure but it very likely has the same info somewhere.

Check for photos taken on your phone or by friends - you might recognise someone and remember something.

Other than that do not shower, drink shit loads of straight water and go to a hospital ASAP. They'll draw some blood and test for drugs commonly used in this scenario and pull DNA where appropriate. This could help massively as evidence.

Regardless of how you feel about it, you don't remember the night & would have been in a state where you couldn't consent. Even if you gave the dude a resounding YES PLEASE or initiated, it shouldn't have happened.

Yeah I’m having a hard time believe this. I’ve also never rolled in a house alone though so who knows what I’d do without the stimulation of djs and lights

Username checks out. But also damn, ty for the great idea!

Stop acting like you’re the victim in this lol

... you serious?

True.

If you didn't drink enough to black out, and you blacked out for hours and there's an unknown dude's clothes in your home, you may have been the victim of a spiked drink. Which would not be your fault in any way. Talk to your friends about what happened during the rest of the night first, and if this seems plausible you may wish to seek further support and consider reporting it to authorities.

when i had zoom classes, this one guy left and went to the bathroom for awhile (maybe took a shower?) comes back out naked. like i completely fully saw his penis, and i can’t quite remember if i’m mixing up two separate situations i saw but he either 1) just walked confidently back to the couch or 2) i think he even crawled / ducked around his room getting back to the camera thinking no one could see.

but my point is.

everyone always goes “omg so you saw ____’s penis on zoom?! i want the full story! was it big?!”

and as shocked as i was, i literally can’t remember. i couldn’t tell anybody what his penis looks like. i can’t even remember if he crawled to the camera naked or if that was a different week where he was being weird clothed. i can’t remember. i just remember the fact that i saw a dude’s penis in my college class. so hopefully that makes you feel better? that even though it was shocking and i kept STARING because i couldn’t believe what i saw, it didn’t last in my brain more than a week. so, hopefully the people in your zoom will uh have terrible memory like me

yes, this is an extremely serious post. OP you may have been a victim of a crime. If you had sex with no recollection of it, or with whom, you may want to consider calling RAINN and perhaps getting some advice on how to deal with this situation.

https://www.rainn.org/resources