Give it a day and then talk about it again...maybe you unlocked a new kink!

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It could be worse, you new name could be “Phil D. Orifice”

The amount of support she gives is rock bottom. She is knowingly hurting your image.

there are 2 girls at my work in a similar situation, both of them have to change their names to something less "etnical", I know their old names and have used them in casual situations, like drinking or something, but when it comes to work stuff I always use their "work names"

Dolly Parton has her own persona when she’s in front of the cameras or making public appearances. She has her “at home” persona for her family, and that’s perfectly special too. Just because you go by your public persona while “on the clock” doesn’t mean she doesn’t have “the real you”.

At least someone accepts that there are both adults that consent to a relationship.

Still I have seen similar posts (but MF) that get blasted because of the age gap.

She's probably upset she didn't consult with her before changing the name.

double down, already there, go down swinging

I'd go ahead and start looking for a new job.

they are both fully adults in my eyes. anyone getting upset about the age gap is being ridiculous. and yes, i'd be saying the same thing if they were straight.

that's not okay. people should be able to change their names and have other people, their loved ones most of all, respect that decision. when i transitioned, my family had no issue using my new name even though i'd used my old one for 22 years. there were mistakes made at first, but it's a matter of love and respect that the people close to you try to get it right. if she truly can't wrap her head around a new name for a person she had only known for a year and a half, that shows a huge lack of respect. i wouldn't associate with anyone who insisted on calling me something i didn't want to be called.

Suddenly no one talks about the age gap. I see that it applies to MF relationships only... ahh the double standard.

But anyway, you gotta now know what you wanna prioritize in life: Love or career. I'd personally stick with career if your significant other doesn't accept you for who you are.

Age gaps are only offensive to most people if it's an old man and young woman.

Yeah SHE sounds like the pretentious one. Fucking hell. Hopefully she doesnt fall in love with the name horsey for their kid.

Cant you tell her to use a petname like "Babe", this way she doesnt have to use the name she doesnt like and no one hears your old name?

Truly inspirational

She should be connecting to your soul not your name! You are NOT your name. If I now name you Panda, does your soul change?

My bf lied about his because he didn't like it, when I found out I just couldn't see him with the other name. It does feel like a different person, so that is a valid point. However if she loves you, she'll find a way to work through it and likewise should understand how important it is for your work. She may not agree with it but it's not like you've made the rules.

When you say changed your name, do you mean a full legal name change, or you use a stage name professionally but legally you still have your original name.

If it's the first, she needs to lear that the old name isn't your name and just because you have a different name doesn't mean you are a different person. If it's a name she doesn't like she can call you a nickname/petname privately and only if she's interviewed use you actual new name.

If it's the second then I can understand her calling you the old real name in private but in professional settings she should be using your professional name.

Not recognising the new name is disrespectful in either case. Not calling someone by the name they've asked to be called is disrespectful. The question is do you want to be living with and eventually marry someone who disrespects you everyday on such a fundamental way as not recognising your identity

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Let her come up with a nickname to call you that's not old name or new name and only for her. It wouldn't have to be a secret since it's just a nickname. Many people call their SO's Honey, Baby, Sweetie, etc...

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your gf is being super petty and needs to get over herself, you are more than a name

Best solution would be if you agree on like a other name with your gf something she alrdy calls you like babe or so , but it should be okay to usw in public.

I for example dont call my gf by her name so even if she would change her name, it wouldnt matter for us.