When I was a kid, I was adopted at age 7. My adoptive parents wanted to change my first name as well as my last name, but the social worker stopped them (thank god) and explained to them psycho-emotional development and entanglement of your first name with identity. Your name is who you are.

Not trying to sound "new agey". But I'm sure it will come off that way.

Growing up I had a special interest of doing numerology readings of personalities. I had a hard time reading peoples personality so I always got multiple opinions on if the results were accurate.

Oddly enough, the name you use for yourself does have a big impact on personality. The readings I did comparing birth name, married name, and nicknames, each name would come out to a different number. The people I got opinions from would tell me that at the time of the name change they could tell there was something different about the way the person I did the reading on acted, but they couldn't place it specifically. After looking at my readings they were shocked looking back at how well they matched up with each name the person used.

So given this information I can see why your gf would feel like they don't know you or recognize who they fell in love with when using the new name.

TL;DR: names have a huge impact on how people act and think.

I don’t think you did anything wrong. It’s for your career. I don’t think it’s pretentious. Friends and family can still call you by your birth name.

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If you hated it this much, then drunk you did yourself a favor. Instead of staying somewhere you're unhappy get out there and start looking for a better position. Not like you left yourself any other options.

Don’t be shy… vanilla porn or what 😂

Oh it absolutely will be 😂 as I said in another comment.. we've been best friends for 15 years. We're engaged and plan on getting married this summer. We're both 33

If this is real - the right approach is to wait more than two weeks before you whip out your kinks. Maybe ask politely to poo on her feet and work your way up. Then murder suicide because why the fuck are there people like you! Yikes

I def play at least one kind of flute.

Do you specialise in wood instruments?

Thanks, edited.

Jesus dude your girlfriend is hitting herself with objects, that is not something a stable person does. She sounds like she’s gaslighting you with the combination of hitting herself+calling you abusive for making her do that. You’re not the screw up here, she is. You haven’t written anything that shows us you’re abusive to your children.

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> Your old name is just for her to use, in intimate situations

She already said it's fine if her girlfriend uses it at home but she is still using it at industry events and during interviews. I'm not sure trying to wrap the exact same suggestion in some more flowery language is going make any difference.

OP offered that solution and she didn't want to do it and is now sabotaging her professionally. I would have trouble getting used to it to but it doesn't seem like she is willing to do it. It seems like your suggestion has already been tried and failed.

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Been with my wife, married and dating, for over 40 years. We still laugh about humorous sex stuff that occurred in our early years. This will be one of those memories for you two.

Oh he's laughing about it now 🤣

This isn’t all that uncommon. For example, from an obituary for the famous Hollywood actress Lauren Bacall:

>The name Lauren was given her by Howard Hawks before the release of her first film, but family and old friends called her Betty throughout her life, and to Bogart she was always Baby.

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Then you're fine. It'll be something that (in a weird way) builds your relationship as it'll be a shared experience that you can hopefully both laugh about later.

"A rose by any other name would smell as sweet."

Asking myself the same thing. 🤢

Especially if they already hate it

This☝🏽😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I think I peed a little.

I'm so sorry 🤣

Thank you for helping me not fap today