An interim could be that the gf doesn't get invited to interviews or industry parties but that might start to build resentment. "You can come by you have to call me by my industry name in public. Your choice"

Some people seem to be zooming right past that part and giving advice that completely ignores that context. Peak reddit, I guess.

Yeah, if they took something like Panadol/Paracetamol at such a large dose, they'd be hospitalised and in fear of liver failure.

Instead of apologizing, you should have followed up with, "No rush, but I'd mainly like to see improvements in areas A, C, and D. Let me know how you plan to proceed."

I think OP probably already had this conversation with the GF.

Why can’t she just call you pet names or like babe or something? Shouldn’t be a hard compromise.

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CPS needs to take those babies away, you are both unfit parents.

Sorry, but your partner is an idiot, my wife doesn't like her first name, so I call her by her second name, because she ask me to do it and I love her, so, doesn't matter the name, the important thing is you, and if your partner love you, will call you wherever you like, need to.

Just be honest and professional. Looks like you already talked. Maintain that you were venting and the things you said may not represent represent how you truly feel. An honest apology will go a long way.

No place worth working for will fire you over one indiscretion. You will need to repair the relationship over time though.

On the other hand if you truly mean all those things you said and hate working there, it’s a good opportunity to start looking for a better place. No one want to be in a toxic work place, and no one wants to deal with an employee who clearly does not want to be there.

This right here, he sounds great!

Kinda sounds like she's doing this deliberately to derail you. Using your real name at home is one thing, but out in public and within your profession is completely different.

Not to mention he acknowledges right at the top about postpartum. They both need some help but neither seems willing to work together to get themselves help.

A call center.

All of my Chinese friends except one have given themselves Western names. They say it just makes things easier.

After reading this and the comments, definitely not your fu OP. He lied and mislead you, there was no way you could've known, and who's to say even if you asked he wouldn't have just lied to your face until after the hookup since he lied about it in his status? Sorry he made you feel bad 😔

stepdaddyimstuck.mp4 yeah that def would be awkward

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Most my friends who are Sudanese have a “white” name. It comes in handy for jobs.

You're being defensive and looking too hard for something that's not there. I didn't say she can't make a decision. I said she's more vulnerable to manipulation in relationship with someone much older. I said that the healthy decision would be to not engage in that relationship. If anything, it's the 32 year old who should definitely not be making that decision. It's hard to understand the difference in mindset of someone older when you're not there yet, it's just one of those things that makes sense once you've experienced it yourself.

I know it was embarrassing to you. I am glad you could laugh about it later, because it is funny. He can forever say he fucked the shit out of you, and not be bragging. We find out when we get in serious relationships, especially when we live together, the good and bad of being human. Air freshener for every bathroom because, shockingly, a girl's shit does not smell like roses. It was a big shock to me.

Agreed. It gets omitted on purpose and you make yourself look bad by asking a normal person things like that. Are you cheating right now, are you a serial killer, do you abuse puppies on weekends? The excuse, well you didn’t ask, is weak.

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you’re literally saying she’s too vulnerable to make adult decisions because she, an adult woman, is too young. that’s infantilizing.

Adult students fortunately. Or maybe unfortunately (kids prob wouldn’t be able to read it).