Not gonna lie, you have a weird relationship with your wife

That's so sweet! She got a fresh name without the bureaucratic hassle of changing it

Snitch on this fucking loser. The girl deserves that much at least.

More like White Abdul Kareem

actually she hated see-obe-han. when i showed her how it was an irish name pronounced shiv-on she was ecstatic, her mom not so much.

Honestly it’s on the other guy, you had every reason to assume he was single, as long as u didn’t knowingly hook up with someone in a relationship you’re almost as much a victim as his poor gf

Whom honestly you should track down and tell if U can

By high school she's calling herself Seeobean or whatever because that's what she wants to be called...is it weird? Yes. Is it not how it's normally pronounced? Yes. But it's still her name she's had from the time she was born, you just gotta adapt to it at this point.

yes because i can hear kevin cursing the karen in the background in hindi.

no i know plenty of people that got a name from their parents because "it looked so pretty", or "i like the way it sounded"(when they never heard it but sounded it out and liked that.) i went to school with a girl named Siobhan, and she and her parents pronounced it See-obe-han. i had to tell her, in highschool, that it was shiv-on.

If you're doing casual hookups that's going to be collateral damage a lot of the time. Just don't do repeats with guys like that and you're pretty guilt free. In the scope of guys sleeping around, you being just one of the guys that gets with him is not going to be the thing that breaks things.

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Took you a while. But you got there eventually.

At least you didn’t drag it to the school network drive to share with the entire school and beyond. That’s where I thought this was going.

LOL okay sunshine 🤣

If you think you can pronounce YOUR name which is written in MY language because your mum lived in MY country when she was young better than me, you're a moron.

Also, I never said it's ok for you to decide a name for other people. I just explained why many foreigners decide to change their name cause most people don't care to pronounce their name properly and, for some, they prefer to be called something else entirely rather than a butchered version of their real name.

Unfortunately there are a lot of married men on the dating apps, and it only gets worse as you get older. If you're single long enough you will accidentally meet some of them, just because sometimes you forget to ask, or it seems obvious. Some conversations start out different so you forget some of those initial questions.

Ultimately, he cheated. You never promised anything to anyone, so you have nothing to feel guilty about.

Not work, but in my high school it was common for international students to choose a more “American” to go by, for many of the reasons other people listed, but I always think of my former Korean exchange classmate whose name basically sounded like “young bum hung” if you tried to pronounce it with an American accent. For obvious reasons, that would have opened up the doors to A LOT of teasing if that’s how he introduced himself to a hundred teenagers, so he went by David instead

Perhaps gf is ok with the arrangement. You don't really know.

If she's getting hung up on the new name because she doesn't like it, then ask her to choose a name you can both agree upon, and regard it as a nickname... a term of endearment, if you like!

As long as it's not your old name and you both like it, then I feel that could be an acceptable compromise.

You could agree that it's for her exclusive/private use, or have it generally known that it's a name which only your closest friends & colleagues have the right to call you.

It isn't uncommon for celebs to have special nicknames which are deemed out of bounds to "outsiders".

Take Oliver Hardy, for example: His closest friends/acquaintances called him "Babe"!
Do you see my point?

Compromise.
It's the key to every good relationship!

No he was not.

OMG Woret nightmare

Cheating liars are everywhere. OP did nothing wrong. Hookup culture and liars are a bad mix and they're destroying lives every day.

Speaking as the GF in this exact scenario. Found out after three years; I was being gaslighted by a closets bisexual man who is also a sex and porn addict. Hookup sites are inundated with these folks.

It's traumatic for the partners when they find out. It's unfortunate there's no way for hookups or the family to know about it prior, until they have done profound damage to other people across the board.

It's messed up and it's also becoming more and more prevalent.

Don't be too hard on yourself. If it continues to upset you, connsider reaching out to her and informing her about the infidelity of her partner.

Grody.

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