Either get marriage counseling or a divorce. This marriage sounds diseased with open relationship that the wife suggested but she isn't cool with and you're now cool with not being poly while she's has an asexual boyfriend. I not making a judgement on this being an open relationship but rather it's a mess that you two aren't on the same page.

I think it's less about changing the name and more about feeling bad about making the partner call them by the new name, maybe? It's pretty normal to use an assumed name for celebrities, isn't it? But I doubt Lady Gaga's partners call her "Lady Gaga" at home, lol. But at an industry party, yeah, if they were to be like "oh yeah Stefani was saying blah blah" some people might be like "uh, who?"

I dont bother with gay hook ups cause guys are too horny and I dont bother with women cause they want to chat for like five months before meeting which they never want to do.

Yes it’s “last year I fu”

See, maybe it’s just me but if I’m on a dating app I don’t feel like I should need to question if the person is in a committed relationship. Cos, you know, they’re on a dating app. I’ve had a few people on apps ask me if I’m single and it’s always a red flag.

I never have spend a second thinking about the other guy if he had a girlfriend or boyfriend.

If a casual thing happens that shouldn't be the thing to worry about. Two to Tango, no regrets

I am getting a Seinfeld vibe. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NRUdaWZ4FN0

Is she deliberately trying to sabotage your attempts to hide your old name? This would be a deal breaker for me - having a partner who does not respect my wishes. Maybe stop bringing her to parties and social events until she sorts out her habits. I have a name that I absolutely hate, my partner knows it and does not use it. He uses a shorter tolerable variation of it. There are also certain words that I absolutely cannot stand - "MAD". Fucking hate that word. had to just say it once to my partner and he got it.

From what you mentioned, it does not seem like it's slipping from her, rather she just does not want to use the new name.

You do realize that you will NEVER live that shit down.

Mine is probably seven

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Reddit decided to time this notification with me listening to Find Your Flame, and popped up when the chorus started “Will the whole world know your name?”

My favourite that I have seen was cake

Username checks out

• no “tech savvy” or socially aware human being has the recycle bin in their task bar and i would immediately sweat anyone on the spot in front of everyone if they did

• downloading porn torrents? as you say: who does that? people who can’t find stimulating enough material using conventional methods.

Bro nobody cares about this shitty story lame.

This, I’ve made an effort to learn how to pronounce Chinese names, but will call them their western names if they prefer. Sadly company I was working for required their legal names as opposed to their western names, but since they didn’t have middle names on ID I would put their western name as the middle name for east recall

I respectfully disagree.
The problem arises from the fact that neither can agree on the name.
If they compromise and settle on one name, the problem goes away.
Not three names, but two.
One public, for the media.
And the other for private or close friends.

I'm pretty sure I explained all of this so it's unclear to me as to why you're still confused!
Maybe that says much more about you than it does me, who knows?

Doesn't solve the problem. She wants her to use her new name in public. Not her old name OR a nickname.

And then she has three names? That's not a compromise, that's giving in to the disrespectful gf. And she already said that gf can call her by the old name in private. The problem occurs when they are in public and she refuses to use the new name. Your suggestion won't solve that problem.

Which has absolutely nothing to do with this situation. It is OP themself who WANTS to use the new name. It's not being forced upon her.

Shuffle the deck. Change it again to something else. Create confusion 😅

This is the way!

> My wife says she doesn't get it because apparently I'm very attractive.

Of course, she doesn't get it. Because she is getting responses from lots of guys interested in her.

P.S. Get off Reddit and join FetLife. Go to the parties that the members on Fetlife setup.

or sit her down and show her your ad and have her help you with your game. Because maybe you are an idiot and don't see how creepy you are.

This seems odd. Don't people in the entertainment business usually change their names before they begin their careers? It seems rather counter productive to become "mildly famous" with one name, then have to start all over with a new name.

But even when entertainers do change their names, aren't they often just "stage names" while they retain their birth names legally?

Seems like someone else made the best suggestion regarding your personal situation. Only your GF gets the "real" you. Everyone else only gets to know the "stage name" you. If she is unable or unwilling to play along with that and call you by your new name in public, then I would question how much she really cares about the "real" you. Because the real you isn't just a name.