Maybe he has an agreement with her. Just cause he is in a relationship does it mean he is cheating? Or did I miss that part?

The guy you hooked up with is in the wrong here, not you. You’d only be in th wrong if you decided to continue things after finding out, and based on this post that’s something you wouldn’t do knowingly as you don’t condone cheating. Hopefully his girlfriend realizes he’s cheating and leaves him as no one deserves this.

It sucks, but you can't feel bad for what someone else chooses to do.

Ok?

He also likes women. Gay men are exclusively attracted to men.

That would be crazy 😂

If you like dicks as a guy you're definitely gay.

Why does it bother you though?

And nearly everyone who posts on the reddit

What can you do before? You never know before.

Biphobia and Bierasure is not cool

I don't want to be part of cheating. I don't like to associate with cheaters.

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You didn't fuck up. She did. Multiple times a day, for over a year.

If she won't respect your needs during the peak of your career, does she really love you in a way that is deep and meaningful to you?

Having experienced something similar, but not exactly the same, the answer is "no".

Lay it out for her. Respect who you are in public or get out. She can still have a private name for you if you're feeling generous enough to grant it. Words are meaningful, names are even more so.

About your stage name:

"Pen names are masks that allow us to unmask ourselves."

— Terri Guillemets.

About the intimacy of her being allowed to keep using your real name in private:

"When you love someone, you say their name different. Like it's safe inside your mouth."

— Jodi Picoult.

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Names are powerful, meaningful, and important. That's why this would be a dealbreaker for me. She doesn't share the same values as you do.

This statement is false.

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That makes no sense. If I'm even thinking about trying to get close to someone, I always asked if they're seeing someone. Asking shouldn't be a red flag. People who dodge the question or give you weird answers are a red flag.

That’s a good point that they may have been there before, I genuinely didn’t think of that. Short sighted I know. I always took it as a sign that they think it’s ok to be on dating apps when you’re in a relationship.

how is it a red flag?? maybe they’ve just been in situations like op, and don’t want to be part of someone else’s cheating?? everything has to be a “red flag” nowadays…

A bi guy doesn't exist. He's gay.

Why are americans always scared to type "sex" or other words for it online and rather describe it as "doing the deed" or "naked time"? Just write sex, fucking, getting railed or any other word for it

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How is she so childish. She also has no respect for you

Not your FU. Unless you didn't use protection.