I am SOO relieved that I'm not the only one thinking this.

https://youtu.be/HkJ7uqAdbL0

You have the choice to walk away.

Why in the hell do so many people think they can be in a committed relationship and fuck other people without creating jealousy, insecurity and resentment?

The vast majority of the time this shit never works out. Don't listen to people telling you how great open relationships are. They almost always end badly.

Be an adult and pick a partner who you like and are compatible with and stick with that person. If you start developing feelings for someone else then either cut that person out of your life if you are committed to your current partner, or end it with your current partner and go be with the new person.

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How are you falling for this

You got your 12 year old drunk and had a shower with him? That's creepy as fuck dude, There's no excuse for that. And then made him clean up your mess afterwards? What's wrong with you? I just really hope for your son's sake that this situation wasn't as bad as you made it sound but somehow I doubt it. Fucking sick.

It is not enough to be non-racist, one must be anti-racist. Good for you for pushing back.

You are asking reddit? You both are asking reddit for validation. There is your problem. Yall need to not get married and do some real growing up

He probably meant he woke up at 12 a.m.

You 100% are the asshole.

I had a father like you. You're vile.

TBH—This wasn’t as bad as I was expecting based on the intro. Sounds like both of you have some issues to work out, and you both have a certain level of culpability in the situation. The whole hiring an escort was a major, major dick move, but other than that it doesn’t seem like he’s a psychopath (at least based strictly off his posting). Maybe insecure, jealous, confused, and very immature, but not exactly a psycho. The kid will complicate your life immensely, so I would recommend you both do some very serious soul searching and figure out if you want to put in the effort to make things work. Have an open and honest discussion about it. I wish you both the best of luck, hope you figure things out. Cheers.

No, you suck. There is no excuse. I have never in my life been drunk or high enough to consider pouring a cup of alcohol for a kid and I've gotten plenty fucked up. You're a real shit Dad if this even true.

You are an alcoholic. Please get help, for your kid's sake.

It’s shit like this that will get child protective services called. Don’t be a dead beat alcoholic father. Like that card has been played out. Do better.

Honestly? It just sounds like you guys created a messy situation for yourselves. You continued into a non monogamous relationship being the only one “fully” invested in going down that route and he intentionally deceived you as revenge.

You have a child on the way. Now isn’t the time to play “who got more Reddit downvotes”.

Move on and build a relationship on grounds that actually work for both of you or separate and commit to being the best parents you can be. Either way you’re about to have a responsibility to another human life.

Not a fu. You forced your Mom's hand in having her deal point blank with your dad's racism. I doubt he was born again and prob still is a racist but the fact that racism wouldn't be tolerated to that degree in his own house should make him aware.

Kudos to you for pushing it (even if ignorantly unaware) and your mom for doing what was right

Geeze. Doing this on Reddit for random people to give you attention is bad, you should get yourself checked out or something. someone/something hurt you when you were young probably. Attention seeking like that is so weird, and gross, and ugly

A little bit. I'm going to be running it in the dryer at least once a day for a few days to try and make sure it gets fully dry and hopefully minimize the damage.

it takes something like an hour to process one drink.

Edit: changed shot to drink

Yeah you’re just a dumb ass. Good bait, but you’re really lame inside for thinking this lol like so trash it’s almost pitiful.

Holy fuck. That's really your best effort.

You are stupid.

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