Recent comments in /f/tifu

robbierottenisbae t1_j5nuuka wrote

Reply to TIFU by touching a girl to comfort her but instead made her really uncomfortable by [deleted]

Dude, you're WAY overstressing about this. If anything your nervous behavior after the first side hug is what probably made her uncomfortable, giving someone a side hug once is not going to make them uncomfortable unless they are particularly averse to that kind of thing. But another side hug, and the general kind of lurking near her? Sometimes when you are trying too hard to not be weird, it has the opposite effect.

But you gotta stop beating yourself up about this. I have been there before, I had similar situations when I was 19, give yourself some forgiveness. She still hangs out with you and clearly considers you a friend, so I'd say she's forgiven you. Now I don't think she's interested in you romantically but I also don't think that'd be any different if you didn't have the fu. If you really still feel bad about it STOP bothering Jessie about it. She is right that you're overthinking, and she shouldn't have to be your confidant to reassure you you didn't do anything wrong. Apologize to Emma about it if that's what you need to do to forgive yourself.

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lizfour t1_j5nr9ck wrote

Reply to TIFU by touching a girl to comfort her but instead made her really uncomfortable by [deleted]

>Looking back, this is probably the time I should have stopped touching her but my stupid brain wasn't thinking straight and was too excited to get these people to try the rides.

That wasn't the time. The time was after the one before. If you're already considering that your touching isn't well received, you don't continue doing it.

I get that it comes naturally to you but you have to rein that in. This isn't the situation for 'that's just what I do' rationales.

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jstacko t1_j5nq39s wrote

Reply to TIFU My fiance[38m] posting on reddit and getting destroyed made me [28f] realize I’ve been with a psychopath by marriedtoapsychopath

As others pointed out, you both have a lot of soul searching to do. Did he do a petty move by hiring the escort? Sure. But you both agreed to an open relationship - he went along with it for a year, knowing you were not just physical with this woman, but also emotionally invested in her. When the shoe was put on the other foot, you clearly did not like how it felt - so you both agreed to end that, and return to a normal dynamic.

You now have a child on the way. You two need to sit long and hard about your two options: move on and separate, but work to be good parents to your child, or stay together, work on moving on from this time in your relationship, and still be good parents to your child.

If you stay together, I'd recommend seeing a couples therapist, to help navigate these feelings - both those that lead up to the situation, the emotions of the situation itself, and the fall out.

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teashirtsau t1_j5nntis wrote

Reply to TIFU by touching a girl to comfort her but instead made her really uncomfortable by [deleted]

It's OK to ask someone if it's all right to hug them. It's also important to observe if their consent is enthusiastic or not, particularly if you're a feely person who might not read cues so well or might usually skip over this part. If you want to be closer to Emma you need to start by identifying and respecting her boundaries.

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zecariah OP t1_j5nnl9u wrote

Reply to comment by capt_scrummy in TIFU by sleeping w my best friend by zecariah

Ill update ya. I think im also not the most mentally healthy as u might have gauged. So who knows? Maybe shes just focusing on herself or inpatient. I could be manic and paranoid for not taking her word. I hope.

But yes. Great advice ab the booze. 🤧 im workin on it. She has as well, but neither of us are the most mentally healthy ppl ngl. Still, at least both of us have taken steps to address our issues. Even if we stumble a lot on our self improvement.

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