Seems like the shit apple didn't fall far from the shit tree.

buddy, him growing, being strong and hard is what got him into this mess in the first place

Get some help.

I got too much to say, but just know that you're no different from the rest of the world. I'm 38, alcohol ruined my life once, sometimes we have to hit rock bottom to read between the lines.

If anything this has made you either stronger or harder. Life is about growth and managing crisis.

You definitely don't know that. OP is already panicking thinking that as worst case; you don't get to just state it factually like that.

Wow, what a shit show over an accident. The world has truly gone tense, fragile and mad. I hope your example works as a "Let's not things escalate like they did with this guy"-type of example.

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r/holup

I am a man and I have a dick. It is my dick but it is a normal dick. It is not the biggest or smallest. It is not a dick to take a pic and sent to anybody.

When you gonna hug a friend or a person and you are not sure, open up your arms but make sure they are the one who will come close to you.

Need more karma points

Actually that's toned down

Lol

It sounds like neither of you were in the right headspace to consent to what you both did. Give her space, I'm sure she'll talk to you about it when she's ready. I imagine it's going to be a difficult conversation for both of you and I hate to say it, but I really doubt your friendship is going to be the same after this. I'm not sure you guys are "cool" either. I think she probably said that because she's hurting about potentially losing a friendship over this too. I don't think either one of you is more at fault than the other, it sounds like you've both gone through some emotionally heavy stuff recently and this is how it's manifested. Be upfront with her when you guys eventually talk about it, you owe her that. You probably shouldn't have done what you did, but alcohol and the emotional vulnerability of going through recent breakups will make you do dumb shit. I think telling her that you were both not yourselves at the time is the best course of action. It still doesn't excuse what happened, but hopefully it'll help her see that her friend didn't mean for it to happen. I can't even begin to imagine how shit you must feel rn. I'd be beyond devastated if this happened between me and my best female friend. I think you probably need some time to process all of this as well. I hope you guys can work through this and come out better for it at the end. Wishing you the very best during this difficult time

Not interesting. Made up.

That’s ridiculous. You don’t process alcohol at all and you can feel the effects of it immediately.

Wow. I am so thankful I grew up in the eighties. This level of overthinking and social insecurity is mind blasting. You want to wait a bit longer before you feel it appropriate to pitch some woo in Emma’s vicinity….just wow.

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Easier said than done

The fact that you think you’re much better than him is astonishing. You both have a lot of growing to do….if you guys plan on keeping the child I’d suggest couples counseling quick or break up and figure out a healthy coparenting relationship…

Every cloud I guess

For my own sanity it’s best to leave, plus my boss was on a mission to make my work day as miserable as possible. I don’t have the energy to deal with that.

Lady, your introduction and description of the guy and his post is so far off base, it is mind blowing how you expect to be taken seriously. Between the two of you, it’s not him who’s showing disturbing tendencies. Ugh..

Stop simping dawg