thank you. I agree. I think I should be honest with her about what happened and tell her that I want to explore medication options with less potential for abuse. hopefully what you say is true and no grippy sock vacation will ensue. my only real gripe with that is not being able to be away from work.

does AH mean asshole? I was just sharing this story on today I fucked up. I wasn't really asking a question just sharing my screw up. but I mean, I will say that I am an asshole. I sure do feel like one. he has every right to be pissed and/or disappointed in me for this. I don't think I want to take them at all again for a long time :/ I'm mad at myself for having such little self control and for even having the thought to begin with. idk. talking to my doctor is the option here. I want to see if there are meds available with less abuse potential that will help me instead of these.

You both have issues.

You both need help.

Guys understand that the pill can mess with your emotions. Tell him how you really feel and what he means to you. The words you used to describe him here are perfect. He might not want to get back together and just stay friends, but at least this way you'll know for sure. Don't leave it as you'll come to regret not taking the chance later. Good luck 😊

The only answer to the actual question you asked that can be taken seriously is Yes, you did FU by abusing your ADHD medication. I think that there is an unstated question that is less definite and that question is "Am I totally screwed" The answer to that question is a solid "Maybe"

It certainly is not "Good" that a former substance abuser who is in recovery has just abused another substance. That said, it is predictable that a former substance abuser who is taking Ritalin may "Slip". It happening even once is very concerning. You do, however, sound very sincere in your desire to nip this in the bud and even though 99% of addicts can talk a good game at this point it has only happened once. Just don't be an idiot and become a "Golden slipper" which is someone who talks a great game but slips pretty much all the time.

Right now it's about 60/40 on where you end up on the AH/Not an AH spectrum with it leaning towards AH. Every week that goes by where you do not screw up again moves you further and further away from AH. But, keep in mind that moving towards AH moves at the speed of a rocket ship and moving away from AH moves at the speed of a snail. So let's not get upset if it takes a long long time before you have any idea what the answer to that question is because the only answer that comes quickly is "Yes you most certainly are an AH" So be happy that you do not have an answer yet.-

Have some questions regarding your progress in managing the meds if you ever have a min.

You made a mistake, something we all do. It's nothing to be embarrassed about, especially since it was medical in nature.

It may not be fixable, relationships are fragile in the beginning, but you'll never know if you just assume and make his decision for him. Reach out and communicate.

No relationship can survive an inability to communicate your inner world, your fears, your beliefs, your sorrows and shame. Healthy relationships aren't all about good feelings and fun times. Sometimes, you'll have to share in the slog and the, oftentimes, harsh realities of being human together. Six months is a start, but it is only a beginning, truly. Deep relationships develop over years and living together will reveal everything that was hidden, in time. Even the things you weren't aware of in yourself will eventually start to become highlighted. That kind of relationship takes more than good feelings it takes bravery and humility. If you can't share your inner turmoil and doubt with him in an honest moment, your relationship never stood a chance anyway. Just saying the quiet part out loud.

Not telling your doctor is the first step you should take to not get better. Manipulation and lying in order to continue getting a medication that youre abusing is exaxtly what is going to keep you sick. Been there, no offense. But, that is a recovery thought-train error. Youre not gonna get sent to treatment over this. That, im almost postive because i have told my doctor way worse things on a regular basis. But, dont tell him and continue down this path, you may need treatment. Used to take 300mg vyvanse/ 80mg ritalin a day. Good luck!

Yeah, some people in Paris also said he could have been a pick pocketer. Still not worth the trouble though.

Any update?

depending on where you are that could be classed as constructive dismissal you should have played the ultimate power move and sued them for it after

Hiring an escort to hurt you is shitty, but if anything it's less serious than what you were doing. I mean, he paid money for a ONS, and you were emotionally and physically invested with another person for a whole year. Should he have been honest about his feelings? Yes. But that doesn't make him a psychopath.

its paris. that probably happens all the time

I already posted on here BUT I’ve seen where people agree with OP about him being “manipulative asshole” and honestly I don’t see it. Looks to me she is, she took full advantage of someone .. had her cake and ate it too and he’s the manipulative one? Really, someone dumb it down for me cause I don’t see it.

OP: “I just wanted to take my career a new direction.”

That’s kind of weird that he’s your bf and you don’t know where he lives.

You’re both incredibly problematic. His post seemed totally normal and he used some dumbass mind game to have a happy family with you while you simply expected for him to be ok with you exploring your sexuality with other people. Only problem was that you were getting fairly romantic with one person, you were emotionally cheating which is usually off limits for open couples. Albeit he’s a dickhead for trying to make you jealous but it obviously worked because you were ok with him fucking other girls so long as they weren’t as pretty as you. This is insane. You’re both insane.

The faster you talk to him the better. Few weeks isn't so bad, but there will be a time where he's totally moved on and your confession will be meaningless. Or worse, it will be meaningful AFTER he's spent his time healing, and you'll break things all over again. Faster is better here

You are about to feel the full weight of the consequences of your actions.

Ah, didnt know talking someone into leaving his partner is the same as talking him into a different sexuality.

See this is the problem. Everything here is carefully worded to pity the woman and judge the man as a monster. But the actions themselves that he did are almost noble.

I have no idea how I would react if my girlfriend did this and it happened to me Id be crushed

>figured a child in the mix would help

Looked more negligent than intentional to me. Unplanned vs planned.

>When did he tried to convince her she is not lesbian?

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>From the BF, paragraph 1, sentences 3 and 4:
When we first met she had a girlfriend and she was only with women before. It turns out we had a spark and I was able to talk her into ending it with her girlfriend and start seeing me.

Yes...he convinced her to end it with her, then, girlfriend with the sole intent of getting OP to date him. JS

Other than that, I agree with your assessment.

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