These comments have me rolling🤣

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ur cute, good luck

Honestly both of you sound like you contributed to a super unhealthy relationship. Like, super unhealthy. Both of you have a lot of blame on this, so I don’t think your husband is “the devil” based only on what’s listed here, but I’m sure there’s other things behind the scenes you didn’t include that he’s done. But to me it sounds like you both played a major part in this. You wanted to be with this other woman, but also stay with this dude at the same time, which is just so weird I can’t even understand it

Tl;dr: your husband is definitely NOT a psychopath, but you both have major issues and both equally contributed to the situation you’re in now. Seriously idk how you think you’re the good guy here when both of you made some incredibly stupid decisions

NYC is such trash. This kinda stuff always happens there with some of the dumbest people

Obvious rage bait is obvious

From what I know about you, you don’t deserve any better.

You’re just as bad, if not worse. What makes you say he’s a psychopath?

I'd have to disagree. I think this make you the petty/shameless/shady part of the equation. Who would be proud to sue their way to the middle?

The important thing is that you already disclosed your prior substance abuse problem to your clinician, who then came up with a treatment plan, which included the risk that you may abuse the meds, keeping you on a low dose. Impulse control is a significant ADHD trait, where self medicating and an inability to set or keep to moderate limits are a real destructive force. What I mean is that you can allow yourself a bit of room to understand that you abusing your meds is as much a symptom of your neurodiverse impulsivity, as anything else, and one of the main reason to take the meds in the first place is to help reduce these symptoms.

One of the big issues with stimulant medications and ADHD, is that if the dose isn't strong enough, it has no helpful effect and so while starting you off small is one way to tackle the risk, if it's not strong enough to help with your symptoms, then you're going to feel the symptoms and there's a real risk of that inpulsivity to take more to increase the effect being present. This doesn't diminish your responsibility to being safe with your own medication but there needs to also be an empathetic reaction to it too, and a drive to help you reach the right place and support.

On a personal note, it can be easy to want to chase a euphoric feeling the meds give you, when you first start taking them and plenty of people feel that way, then question the efficacy of the meds when it doesn't, so don't blame yourself so much for that aspect. Short acting meds may be worse for this as they aren't going to cover remotely the time you need them to and keeping on top of medication timing's is remotely easy when you only have to take one long acting, rather than juggle multiple.

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“Looking back I just wanted to hurt Amy” - Thats why it was a dick move.

Yeh guys, sorry it’s time to be parents now. Reddit downvotes don’t matter.

What was the dick move about hiring an escort? If he found a willing partner to do the exact same thing without monetary exchange would it have been less bad?

Christina is the real one dealing with yours and your fiancés psychopathic asses.

I mean, I would call him a hypocritical dick who is clearly insecure, but not a psychopath...... poly relationships are not for everyone, esp if one has jealousy issues and rampant biphobia...... y'all need couples therapy stat if you're gonna both be there to commit to raising this baby together, or your child will have the same issues

I think everyone kinda glossing over the fact that OP here was 18 when she met her fiance who was 28 at the time. Some of the stuff fiance has done is manipulative I feel. " It turns out we had a spark and I was able to talk her into ending it with her girlfriend and start seeing me " - I'm not sure that's exactly a green flag

" I wasn't even interested in anyone, honestly looking back I just wanted to hurt Amy. " - At this point OP's fiance is what, 35? 36? That's a fully grown man failing to communicate that he doesn't like this arrangement.

I'm not sure if psycho is the right word for it, but asshole definitely is

Thank you for the concise short version of what I was saying.

Yeah its not even that bad they both agreed they wanted to see each other. Yeah the husband did it a shitty way but hell man people make mistakes. Dude just really sounds like he loves her and is absolutely sick of seeing her have a relationship with another person and doesn’t know how to communicate that and did something really stupid but i mean it did show OP what it felt like so in a way it worked

OP: "What's your number?"

Make sure that silver lining doesn't look like your hog

Pretty sure it just means asshole.

I have no say in the matter, but yes, AH is asshole. And becoming a not-asshole is the pitch-drop experiment compared to the Thanos snap of becoming an asshole.

u have now learned buzz is good but drunk is bad

avoid getting drunk

hey just wanted to say im sorry that it all had to go down this way dude, and I hope that your new job works out better for you.