I think the person you replied to is Christina.

Were keeping a close eye on everyone for the next few days just to be safe. So far everyone seems okay!

Wait, it's a cruise to Japan. How much time is actually in Japan versus on the ship?

But also, you have some unresolved issues that are causing you to apply a blanket attitude to a whole race of people. Have you ever tried working through that?

A lot of people are born, live their entire life, and die without ever going more than a few miles from where they started.

Travel is a luxury and you will see beautiful landscapes and meet wonderful explorers from all over the world on your trip.

I'm sorry you had a bad experience with Japanese but try not to generalize, most Japanese are very polite.

If you go with an open mind and try to be thankful for the experience you will have a great time!

my male cat before neutering would pee on things instead of using his litter box, its possibly that too

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The situation is definitely pretty fucked up, and I understand how he could be seen as manipulative, but you guys did invite other people into the bedroom by your initial choosing. It seems unfair that he got to enjoy threesomes and then turn it all around on you, but you guys sound like you should have either broken it off years ago or you’re both really in love fighting for the relationship. The last thing I would accuse him of is being abusive or being “the devil“.

28 and 18 when you started dating…Sorry, but that’s such an obvious L. You should have more self-worth than that.

People that play up the "I'm not mad" because they don't know how to communicate was my takeaway from this. Be with someone that speaks their mind.

Yeah man, 5 or 6 of 50mg capsules. Classic case of using opiods/ benzos to get low and stimulants to bounce back up.

Jesus 300 mg?!

Did people really overwhelmingly say he was an abusive asshole? And if so which subreddit was this? Yeah, he did something to spite you because he was insecure about you seeing another woman that you were not only having sex with but had strong emotional feelings for and you telling him you may he a lesbian seemed to trigger a fear of you leaving him but I don't really see that as psychopathic behaviour. Is he jealous? Sure insecure? Definitely immature? Yes but I am not seeing a psychopath from that post. I mean the same feelings you felt seeing him with another woman, he felt all the time you were with Christina especially after you said you may leave him for her.

Edit: I will admit that him talking you out of your last relationship to be with him at the beginning was problematic and doesn't really make him seem like a great guy.

You two need to work on your issues because even if you break up at this point, you have a child to worry about now.

if you are drunk/your partner is drunk, number one rule is alcohol equals no consent.

He's not a psychopath though?

Idk why people would downvote him or trash him either?

Like, ya he did some mean dumb shit...but so did she...

BOTH of you created a fucking mess BOTH of you are dumbasses

BOTH of you need to get your shit together for your kid

You hurt him, he hurt you, move the fuck on.

Yall trying to make it a pissing contest over who is more right or more wrong or more hurt...

Guess what, your both idiots covered in piss.

.... she couldve just left with christina if thats what she really wanted??

WITHOUT MY RIFLE I AM NOTHING!!

OP, people can grow and change. I (44m) was such more of an asshole at age 38 than I am today. It took and takes a lot of work ( reading books, choosing to value learning how I'm wrong over being correct, dropping judgmental attitude, etc). I'm a totally differently flawed dude today than I was just a few years ago.

I was worse than your fiance. Truth is he's insecure (like many of us) and operating under less than helpful narratives. So I think there's hope for him. But you're justified in whatever choice you make.

Seriously, seems like a guy that takes stimulant drugs and is addicted to masturbation/porn.

That’s from the movie Full Metal Jacket

Also, a psychiatrist won’t necessarily think the worst if you tell them your med is working at some points better than others. It’s not uncommon to have a supplemental medication for towards the middle/end of a stimulants med’s duration.

You however did tell your psych your substance abuse history, so she/he is taking this to account w/ your medication plan. Try to keep in mind treatment plans aren’t cures — there are ups and downs and falls and leaps, especially when just getting started.

Look at what you’ve succeeded in— you’ve reached out for help. You’ve communicated your history and problems with your psych. You made a treatment plan. You communicated with your partner at every step. You practiced active awareness of the risks of both medication and substance abuse. Though you did slip up, you immediately communicated this to those necessary.

That’s a lot of real, positive progress, man.

Not saying she isn’t a big part of the problem, but you shouldn’t poach a woman from a WLW relationship, who’s only ever been involved with women, and then get upset when she continues to love women. This is why I would advise him, being that he is 38 now, to not mess with women who are a lot younger and often don’t have that figured out. Especially since she was apparently only 18 when they got together…18 year olds don’t know shit, and the sink cost fallacy sets in before they figure it out. So many times I see people of both genders staying in relationships out of comfort or because they don’t want to rock the boat. I don’t think he is a monster at all but there could be an argument made for “idiot.”

It's not too late. It will be challenging, but talk to your doctor and develop a plan to right the ship. Good luck

Ya so you are dramatic and also toxic. What he did was wrong but he is nowhere the level of crazy you described… and you’re not an innocent victim. As messed up as what he did was.. you kind of started it. Stop trying to paint yourself as an angel. It feels like a competition on who can get the most downvotes on Reddit. And yes you two should separate.

Im avalible, hmu

Do the child a favor and split up now and focus on the child's future. The days of this being about you are over, and this should be a really good thing for you both.