As someone who was on Ritalin for a long time....

Get. The. Fuck. Off. It.

Seriously. It will ruin you. I lost my childhood because of it.

Both of you are possessive of each other and self-centered and otherwise oblivious to the other person's needs. That's pretty normal tbh. It takes a few years of talking and hashing things out to get past that stage. Counciling is always a good idea. From what the guy said, I don't see anything abusive, only petty. From what the girl said, she just wanted what she wanted without really acknowledging the emotional consequences of an open relationship.

What should have happened was true separation while girl figured things out. Now there's a baby and, if she's responsible, that puts a full stop on exploring her sexuality. So long as she loves guy, (which staying with him despite being with someone else strongly implies,) there's little to no reason to break up the family dynamic and financial stability for the baby.

There are no psychopaths or abusers here, just 2 people figuring out love is difficult to navigate.

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Just to be clear - racism is when you take an experience with one or a few people who happen to be of a particular race and extrapolate it to everyone of that race. As such, technically it sounds like you are being racist. Do you have a reason to believe that some random person in Japan who you have never met will behave as badly as the people who hurt you?

People learn from mistakes and can change to be better people maybe they will read a lot of these comments and introspectively look at their relationship

Why do you hate the Japanese? Also who says no to a free trip?

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I assume rx means recommended dose?

This reminds me of a conversation I had with my grandpa after him and my grandma bought their first Toyota. He said to me “I never wanted to buy a Japanese car because they killed so many of my friends in the war (he was in the US Navy in WWII) but this Prius is a pretty good car!”

His policy was to trade in his car and purchase a new one every two years and from that day til the day he died (about 10-15 years later) they always had a Toyota or a Nissan. If he can get over the combat racism that held onto him for half a century I think there’s hope for you.

As someone who has a hard time being flexible - find something that excites you about the trip (amenities on the ship etc) and focus on that. Anything you experience about Japanese culture that has a option to have a guide or instructor you should take them up on - you will be more likely to have a positive experience (and it will make it harder to back out of the activity).

there are literal chemical imbalances in your brain. Correct medicine/dosage helps regulate that.
What you determine as feeling opposite or "bad" is probably what stable/normality feels like. But people generally dont get to this point since it takes taking the medicine for longer than a couple weeks along with lifestyle changes to start seeing any real progress.

Poor kid.

Bingo. Why are some posters going to extreme lengths to remove all accountability and agency from someone who could have said no and moved in with the person she actually wanted?

What did she expect would happen?

Flip the genders and think if a wife sleeping with other men while her husband fucks his boyfriend would be met with as much ire, or if people would be implying the husband did her a favour by staying with her so as not to hurt her feelings.

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No shot that you're a anarchist and this much of a callous asshole towards disabled people.

It wasnt a rx

Addiction doesn't make you bad. Falling off the horse will happen. You just gotta remember that a slip up doesn't mean you can't get back to things. Just try your best not to, and definitely have someone dole them out. I was addicted to butabitol in my early 20's because my head would hurt, and I would forget, and take it again. Then I got rebound headaches... Eventually was taking 22 a day. Weaning too fast actually killed me, needed resuscitation and medication induced coma.

You are not bad. Addiction is a demon, you'll have to fight it every day, but you can win.

The hypocrisy and lack of self awareness is stunning. Glass houses get their windows shattered.

OP: “I was the biggest swinging dick at my last job. Now, I’m looking for new worlds to conquer.”

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Was that your recommended dose. My Vyvanse is only 60Mg and while it does keep my focused I do feel like I could use a higher dosage.

I do not think people who communicate this poorly are going to have a healthy relationship- especially for the child.

I say hire Amy as your nanny. That will fix it all.

Trauma isn't the same as racism. Prejudice, certainly.

But yeah, OP needs to get to therapy or something. I understand trauma, but allowing yourself to shun an entire people is not a healthy response.

>and die without ever going more than a few miles from where they started.

One 2 separate occasions last year I heard about people (Gang members) living in LA that have never seen the ocean in their 20+ years of life. It's like 20kms and they've never been and likely won't. Many of them won't go more than a few blocks from their homes.

Not a tifu. A lot of Japanese people feel the same way.